nolove126 Posted December 14, 2017 Posted December 14, 2017 I have been reading and watching videos online regarding no contact and how well it works (or not work) with girls/guys of a certain age group. I've found that typically NC will work more effectively amongst the younger, less experienced crowd as opposed to older folks with more dating experience. My ex left me twice. First time, I did NC, and we got back together after 6 months. She left me again, it has been just over a month, and was wondering if NC will work twice. What are your experiences? I am 35, shes 34, I would say both of us has some dating experience under our belt. I doubt it will work again, but who knows. I am currently focused on improving myself and working on the issues that led to the break up. Just curious what others have experienced in the past.
Highndry Posted December 14, 2017 Posted December 14, 2017 "No contact" has nothing to do with getting your ex back, it has to do with moving on and healing from the relationship. All of those "get your ex back with no contact" gurus are full of crap. That being said, if somebody broke up with you the only choice you really have is to go no contact and hope they have a change of heart. Hanging around begging or other obsequious behaviors do nothing but reinforce their decision.
d0nnivain Posted December 14, 2017 Posted December 14, 2017 You completely misunderstand NC & you are confusing it with manipulation. Absence can make the heart grow fonder & some immature people can't handle being alone so they run back to a dysfunctional relationship & engage in a merry go round of on & off again relationship. NC is really about self healing. It "works" when you the person applying NC no longer feel pain when you think about the EX. In your mid 30s you should have been able to address the issues which create points of conflict in your relationship. If you can't fix what keeps tearing you apart, there is no sense in trying to reconcile. 2
stillafool Posted December 14, 2017 Posted December 14, 2017 No Calling works for everyone regardless of age. It is a tool used to get over someone not to get them back. 1
sdraw108 Posted December 14, 2017 Posted December 14, 2017 The point of NC is to help you move on. Yes, it will work. At any age. As others have pointed out, you've misunderstand what NC is for. I suggest the Loveshack NC guide: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide
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