I asked a girl out who seemed to be very interested, she told me she was busy

[Someguy2001]

This is my first time asking anyome out. I'm pretty sure this girl has a lot more experience than I do. However from my interactions with her she always seemed to be interested. We talked a lot, when my internship ended at the company I met her, I texted her and we spent hours talking. I threw a party, I invited her and she told me the next day that we should see each other again.

 

I was going to ask her out anyway and I did, but she told me she was busy and couldn't make it that day so I suggested another, she told me she was busy that day too. She did give me her reasons, and they seemed valid to me.

 

However, part of me thinks this is a test and she seems like the sort of girl who won't settle for whatever comes around. She didn't suggest another date for one and sometimes she takes a long time to answer my messages, though once she does answer them she doesn't stop texting back.

 

I am not sure how to proceed, this is all very confusing to me though if she is looking for someone who will try harder to form a relationship then I'm definitely up for it. I plan on giving her time to process all that, and I plan to ask her out next year, she mentioned Christmas was a crazy time for her.

[smackie9]

There are some pretty kool light displays this time of year, so how about asking her to go to one of those? Then go for a coffee.

[Someguy2001]

I would do that but she explicitly said she would be busy on the holidays. I just graduated and I'm unemployed, she's been working for two years now and I know that this time of the year I'd tough in the company I met her.

 

Regardless of that, I don't want to seem pushy. This girl seems worth the effort.

[kendahke]

Wait until after NYE and call her up with a place and a time you'd like to take her.

 

If she is still busy, then do not bother dealing with her. She's not interested.

[Someguy2001]

I'll do that. If it doesn't pan out, well that's it then. I would like to stay friends though, hope that's possible of things don't go my way.