n3m04 Posted December 13, 2017 Posted December 13, 2017 Hello. I recently had a broke up with my GF and its really messed up and i dont feel right to leave it that way... I willtry to keep it short. I was with my GF for 6 years - the first 3 were great than she broke up with me I tried to get her back etc. classic one but i couldnt. Than something bad happened and we were forced to get back together without us wanting it to be that way to prevent something bad happening. We stayed like that for 3 years. We weren’t happy especially her and I tried everything to make her time in this relationship ok, not only because I loved her so much but also, she was telling me she is depressed etc. and to avoid any other complications. She was cheating, I did also. She didn’t care for me at all that was the moost painfull thing. So, about a month ago she decided to end this and told me that I should take all the blame no matter what happens. The reason of course another guy. And now she hates me because she blames me for what happened 3 years ago and she does not believe me that was the truth no matter that there was evidence, I was beaten etc. I covered up for her something, keeping her away from the problem. Now I am the one everyone hates because of course she said to everyone that I was to be blamed for everything that happened. Also i am blocked EVERYWHERE and i cannot contact her. I respect her because she was there and also accepted to be in this nightmare against her will. I want to get her trust and respect back because once we shared love and we were happy. I don’t want to lose her, I want to make thing right and have her at least like a friend because i dont think after all we suffered we have to treath each other like garbage. I dont want to go into the details on the internet it difficult to explain. It was bad and life thretening and i proposed her to let me take responsability for what she caused. And right away i knew imade a mistake and i wanted to fix itright away because i was sure that it was going to be a nightmare but she was crying etc beggin me not to do anything and ket telling me that things will be good for us. Anyway i did what i tought it was right and i suffered a lot of and violence for taking this decision. And in the meantime i was kind with her and supportive... Helping with everything financialy and moraly. And oh boy she profited at a maximum. I know... i am so naive but just i tought there is no point beeing mean. And in the end she told me and everyone i am the bad guy that made her life a mess and because of me she couldnt have a normal relationship. And a guy shows up and she es me up like hell because she thinks that leaving me will fix every issue in her life. Anyway I just want to make things right nothing more. I don't think that its the mature way to end everything. Running and threating each other like even if it was bad in her eyes. I dont want her back but if i am going to take the full blame at least we can have a little respect for each other and stop blaming and insult each other for what heppend. Lifes to short to live it in hate and grudges. Those are the things that i can share
d0nnivain Posted December 14, 2017 Posted December 14, 2017 I don't think there is hope for a reconciliation. You were together for 3 years, then broke up. There was cheating on both sides. Clearly this was a relationship that was meant to end. For some reason you got back together but you make it sound like you had to & that you didn't have a choice. You are lying to yourself. You always had a choice. You could have stayed apart but you didn't. Instead you engaged in a farce, being together but not full embracing it. Now you have broken up again & for some reason she's blaming you & you are letting her. Stop doing that. If you weren't the bad guy or the sole bad partner, you are not obligated to let her paint you as the only reason you two broke up. You don't have to throw her completely under the bus or air all your dirty laundry but just let it be known that she had a hand in the demise of your relationship. She doesn't respect you. At this point I'm not even sure she likes you. You stay on the high road; I doubt she can find it. Move forward with your life. 1
Author n3m04 Posted December 14, 2017 Author Posted December 14, 2017 I stepped in for her to do something to prevent a crime happening and the cost at the end was to stay together for a while to let things chill thats why i am saying that there was not much choice. And this while transformed in years because she didnt stop doing **** that resulted on me and i had to do other things to fix the situation without anyone getting hurt. She blames me for the "horrible" time that she had to be with me. But she prfited well from everything and now she left me to deal with her mess alone. At the time i took the responsability i loved her so much. Anyway i hope things will end normaly.
Trip2TheSky Posted December 14, 2017 Posted December 14, 2017 Are you kidding me? This women has treated you like a scape goat and you want reconciliation? Why? You already won half the battle when she left you. Take it from me and do not allow blame to be pushed on you. The blame is in both of you. It takes two to tango. Lesson learned. Block her and move on before she causes more trouble in your life. No real friend will cause a mess for you to follow behind with a mop and bucket. Never be that guy.
Author n3m04 Posted December 14, 2017 Author Posted December 14, 2017 (edited) No need to block she already bloked me everywhere lol. Yeah i know its thr right thing to do the thing ou said. Just i know that deep down she is not like this i told myself that the situation pushed her to be like this. But no. I didnt became like this so it is a choice that you make how to behave no matter what is happening. Edited December 14, 2017 by n3m04
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