When to become fully committed?

[Loveydovey101]

Me and this guy met online. We talked for a few days and went on an amazing date. Dinner, walked around the mall, cuddled, kissed. The very next day he invites me to a party and i go and he introduces me to some friends we have fun. Go back to his dorm and cuddle and kiss, get some food. Another great date. For the third date we did some exploring, are some food, cuddled and did some more sexual making out (no sex but a lot of groping and stuff). Anyways it’s going well. We’re open and everything, we’ve talked about cheating and how it’s horrible, we call eachother “babe” hold hands in public. I’ve asked if he’s talking to other people in the beginning and he said no. We both also established we are looking for relationships. My question is when do I ask if we’re “official” or “exclusive”. I wanna know if we’re on the same page. Also would the fourth date be too soon to go all the way? Would it ruin things, should I wait till after the holidays when he comes back from vacation? Just looking for another perspective. Side note: we are both guys.

[d0nnivain]

You ask when it feels right.

 

Personally for a college relationship, I'd be leery to push before the holidays. I'd continue along as is for now, go home for break, keep in touch & then have the talk when school starts again in January but I'm cautious & play things close to the vest like that.

 

I would also refrain from full on sex until you have had a talk about exclusivity.

[Gaeta]

I think you can address the exclusivity now. It looks like you are both feeling good about this new relationship. If I were you I'd wait after the holiday break for intimacy. After we've been intimate with someone for the first time we get a little bit anxious and needy, we need to be reassured again we're in this together. It would be nice and easier for both of you to not be miles away after your first time and not have to deal with *why he doesn't reply to my text* type of frustration.