OverProtective Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Well if you were to look at my first post you'd see my very complicated situation. My girlfriend has always been a firecracker, things will set her off and she will go cold and shut me out. Don't laugh because the reason she broke up with me is so stupid. We went roller blading with her study buddies todd and stacy. Todd likes my "girlfriend" and i know this and my "girlfriend" knows this. I have had a problem with her hanging around him but hey it's her Schooling we are talking about i don't wanna be a total ass. Anyways, we set off rollerblading and ofcourse Todd has to be a EX pro skater and he's totally showing off for the girls. He takes off his shirt and i take off mine, No contest i win, he is a Skinny punk and i work out all the time. So we get to a set of hills and my "girlfriend" is scared and Ofcourse todd helps them both down because i'm not Joe Pro has been skater, This kinda gets my blood boiling but i go to my happy place. So when i finally convince myself not to kill himI go flying down the hill and to my suprise i was able to stop instead of killing myself. my "girlfriend" comes down after me and loses control. She's flying down the hill screaming and i know she's gonna hit the Railing and flip over the edge or Kill herself maybe both. So i throw myself in the way and she runs into me and i try to catch her. she deflects off me and i'm like "are you ok", She gets up slaps me soooo hard and punches me so hard, Says i'm a idiot and it's OVER. Todd and stacy skate away as this is all going down! she is flipping out on me and tells me to go home. So now intead of our lovely day unfolding i'm stuck here single and lonely. I really loved this girl! And i think it's a ****ed up reason! Sure she might be embarassed but i was only trying to help and look out for her. So As i'm skating away i see her holding tods arm going down the hill. I had to use ever strength in my body not to go back and break this little thorn in my side. Once again instead of going back home firing up the bbq , having dinner and chilling. I'm home while they all three do god knows what without me. It pisses me off! I know she is gonna call and try to get back together but i don't think i'll take her back. I'm too good of a guy to be abused like that.
JS17 Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Wow. Are you sure that she doesn't have something else going on or some other reason? I think even a "firecracker" kind of girl wouldn't break up with her boyfriend over something like this. I still don't even see what you did that upset her. It's also not ok for her to hit you. I know you love this woman but something seems way off here. I've seen some of your other posts and you sound like a great guy so why put up with this treatment? That's great that you've decided not to take her back and to move on. Good Luck
Author OverProtective Posted August 22, 2005 Author Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 Wow. Are you sure that she doesn't have something else going on or some other reason? I think even a "firecracker" kind of girl wouldn't break up with her boyfriend over something like this. I still don't even see what you did that upset her. It's also not ok for her to hit you. I know you love this woman but something seems way off here. I've seen some of your other posts and you sound like a great guy so why put up with this treatment? That's great that you've decided not to take her back and to move on. Good Luck something else going on?Sure! She is Bipolar i think. Sometimes shes super attentive and loving, other times she freaks out and says i'm a control freak and i am way too jealous. I know i'm controlling and ovrprotective but in my opinion she was a enabler most of the time. She would accept it most of the time but then for some odd reason she would have these outbursts and just tell me she hates it etc etc. i think i need to work on myself and then thinki about having someone in my world. I'm messed up, I might take a vacation and just relax for a month or two. take a mental health leave from work and travel. i love her so much that i'm willing to suck it up and let her deal with her demons. no matter how hard she begs and how much she cries this is best. Ofcourse i will ask she seek therapy if we were ever to get back together, i think she has anger issues
animo Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 I think this may be a good time to reconsider getting in to deep with high maintenance women... I'm sure there are plenty of guys who are willing to deal with all the crap they put you through but my experience has always been that it's simply not worth it in the end. If you are a relaxed kind of guy who likes to just enjoy life and not take everything so damn serious, then you shouldn't get into relationships with HM women because they will drive you insane
JS17 Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Well I wouldn't put all of the blame on this girl and I would be careful about the self diagnosis of her mental problems (bipolar). She may very well be high maintenance but you're willing to admit that you're overprotective and controlling which is difficult to deal with as well. Everyone is good at dealing with certan difficulties in others attributes, for example I'm very good at dealing with stubborn people and the men that I've dated that are stubborn have told me it's been a huge issue in their past relationships. It wasn't really an issue for me. Being self aware is a sign of maturity and from there you can move towards realizing when you're being controling and overprotective and try to change it. It sounds like you have a clash in your personalities and it is something that you can both either handle or not. Maybe that behavior of yours sets off a frustration in her that you can't understand. People tend to become oversensitive to issues that have in the past been larger. In all likelihood, if you weren't controlling and overprotective throughout the relationship she probably wouldn't have reacted in this manner. Personally, based on your past posts, you sound like a great guy but maybe it's time to look at yourself and see the relationship from her perspective. Try to put yourself in her shoes. It sounds like your issues might be causing as many problems in this relationship as hers are. There are lots and lots of women out there that don't mind if someone is controlling and want someone who is very protective, she may not be one of them
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