niceties55 Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 I was at church today and I don't know if its because I getting confidence and noticing stuff like this more or what but, the hottest girl actually walked up to me 2x today and said hi and i said hi back. I don't believe it. I mean she's not my type but its a great start and she's hot. Thanks a lot for all your help. By the way can you help me get past the "hi" and good afternoon" part of the conversation. (I only see her once a week). Any help would be nice.
sburtug03 Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Congrats! Starting a conversation.... - No chat up lines. - If you have seen the girl before or you know her sort of... 'Did you have a good weekend/evening/week?' 'What did you get up to?' Comment on something she may tell you about i.e. an experience of your own that is similar. REM: ANY TALK OF YOURSELF SHOULD BE MINIMAL, DON'T GO ON ABOUT YOURSELF FOR AGES, SHE NEEDS TO THINK YOU ARE INTERESTED IN ONLY HER. - Always make eye contact. Next stage = if she mentions a film she watched, you talk about your love of films and a new one that is comming out, then say, 'My friends aren't interested though, would you be?' (Something along those lines.) - If you want to talk to a complete stranger... Comment on something she is wearing/something she is holding saying, 'Sorry to bother you but a mate of mine has been looking everywhere for______ and I was wondering where you managed to get _________ from?' -If she tells you the shop, ask her if she lives near there and so on. Good luck Luv Samantha x
JS17 Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 YAY! Good for you! Don't waste this opportunity and don't avoid this girl. Take it easy and just try to stay as calm as you can when you talk to her. Take it slow and start with some small talk. You can start by asking her about something related to church or where she goes to school, what town she's from etc. just to break the ice. You can talk about your interests and ask her about hers. Talk to her like you would talk to anyone if you were meeting them for the first time. Good Luck and let us know how it goes
Author niceties55 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Posted August 22, 2005 Thank you all so much. You have really made me feel rite at home here. Now (after some practice) I will try to go after the girl of my dreams at school. I WILL talk to her and stop ignoring her. Thanks for everything
whichwayisup Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 That's great!!!! LISTS baby! Do the lists and gain that confidence. Add in what you just experienced as one of your positive moments! That counts!
KellyBean18 Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 If she came up to you then the tough part is over. Try listening and stay away from "I" as much as possible. If she says class was tough today. Ask her what class If she say it is hot today, ask how hot was it today If she says nice shirt , ask her what else should you wear that compliments it etc etc .. Listen ... Don't talk , I never believe anything a guy says in the first 2 dates
Author niceties55 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Posted August 22, 2005 Ok gang. here it is.....im goin to call that special someone today. And im goin to talk to her any suggestions?
Devildog Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Well, if you are going to call her I would hope you would actually talk to her. That heavy breathing thing on the phone really doesn't get most women turned on. Plus with Caller ID these days she would be able to have the cops at your door in a heartbeat. Anyway, what is your purpose for calling her? Is it your intention to aske her out? You need a plan, or more precisely, an expected outcome for this call. If it is just to chat a bit, it might come off weird. Do you believe her to be interested?
Author niceties55 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Posted August 22, 2005 a bit interested(read other threads by me). Why call her? she lives like 45 mins away (only have a permit) and i only get to see her at school (starts up in a week or so. I just want to find out if she is doing well and how her job is going. General friendly information.
KellyBean18 Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Originally posted by niceties55 a bit interested(read other threads by me). Why call her? she lives like 45 mins away (only have a permit) and i only get to see her at school (starts up in a week or so. I just want to find out if she is doing well and how her job is going. General friendly information. niceties55 you are well on your way to being a great catch, I love reading your post you are so "real" a triat you must keep and develop. ~Kelly~
Author niceties55 Posted August 24, 2005 Author Posted August 24, 2005 I DID IT. I called her. We talked for exactly 50 minutes and 20 seconds We loved every minute of our conversation. I CAN'T wait to see her at school Thank you all for your help I'm soooooo excited. (we are both seniors in high school) WOW
Art_Critic Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Originally posted by niceties55 50 minutes and 20 seconds What it would be like to that young again
JS17 Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Awww. Too cute I miss that puppy love crush stuff, it was too much fun Well Congrats...see, it wasn't so hard
Author niceties55 Posted August 25, 2005 Author Posted August 25, 2005 Thanks for everything. Now that we can talk together a little more freely together. Do you have any suggestions for a little bit more serious talk?
KellyBean18 Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Originally posted by niceties55 I DID IT. I called her. We talked for exactly 50 minutes and 20 seconds WOW Make this the last thing you keep time of
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