Loveydovey101 Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 Me and this guy have been talking. From the beginning we agreed we were both looking for a relationship. We’ve been on two dates now. The first date was just us, but on the second date we went to a party and I met some of his friends or what not. (Keep in mind this is a gay relationship). While we were dancing one of his gay friends came up and leaned in for a kiss and then the guy in seeing gently pushed him away and said “I’m with someone”. He explained that he and his gay friends are very flirtatious and not to worry. However now I’m beginning to question if he’s hooligans up with these friends and if I wasn’t at that party if he were to have made out with his friend. Also worth noting I asked him if he’s talking to other people and he said he isn’t. Should I be a little mad and worried that he and his friends are flirtatious? Or should I be happy that he pushed his friend away and introduced me to him. I tend to overthink things, I just want another opinion. (Never been in a relationship with another guy and I don’t know if this is normal or what) thanksss
d0nnivain Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 I'm a straight woman so my answer is a general relationship answer. Even if his friends are flirty, he drew clear boundaries, said no to the kiss & identified himself as being off the market. HIS behavior was above board. He can't control the others. Even if he would have said yes to something casual with a friend, he has said he wants a Relationship with you not them. Hang on to that. Do keep your eyes open because these friends have the potential to be trouble but that does not mean that they are automatically bad or that you should walk away now. 1
ShyLove Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 (edited) Hmm how did the other guy react when your guy told him he was with someone? If this was the only "red flag" I wouldn't worry too much as he did push him away. Sometimes people just get drunk and get a little touchy feely without it meaning much. Also, he DID take you to the party with his friends so he's obviously not hiding you.However, you were the one at the party so if the entire vibe felt off then I would stay on the lookout but I wouldn't be paranoid about everything either. Also, having many, many gay friends and living in one of the most "gay" areas in America (West Hollywood ) I can say that many gays are very flirtatious and often even try to kiss ME (a heterosexual woman) while out on the town lol it obviously means nothing I just take it as them being in a good mood and having fun....or on some type of feel good drug hahaha But always trust your gut Good luck! Edited December 10, 2017 by ShyLove
smackie9 Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 Keep an eye on things and see what else happens.
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