july66 Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 Hey everybody, Please help me with some advice: after my boyfriend got upset because i went to a club without him and didn't speak to me for a week, finally we broke up, or at least we are trying to. I'm not going to go into details, the relationship is doomed - or at least his behavior towards me, permanently verbally abusive. Still because we were very close and he was extremely affectionate I struggle with the need to write him and make things better again (yes, obviously they were never good, he has many, many issues and no matter how hard i tried nothing improved). I just need your advices now to avoid a relapse, anxiety gets so high that i start writing or calling. I hate myself for it, but I can't let him go. What can I do to convince myself, to not center on him, to distract myself, to distance myself, to do the best thing for me? I ruminate on him moving on and get into panic attacks by imagining him with another person. I've cried so much my jaw hurts. I appreciate all your advices!
HumanMachine Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 Block him on everything Remove all memories of him (pics, clothes etc.) Keep busy, meet up with friends as much as possible Realise that every time you make contact you’re restarting yiur healing process Start a new hobby KEEP BUSY The first two weeks are awful, it will eventually get better I promise you.
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