Bat Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 Okay so I started talking to this girl online, and we then decided to meet for a drink after messaging for about a week or so. We had an unbelievable amount of common interests and values, and both had a lovely time on the date. I thought the evening went well! However she said that she didn't feel a romantic connection. I think this is because there wasn't as much physical intimacy as was expected. I probably took things too slow and steady as not to appear like some creep she met on the internet.. That said, there weren't as many opportunities to be physical as I might have hoped. Soon after we both agreed it'd be good to stay in touch as we are, seeing as that we both had fun and at least connected in terms of our interests. Could anything still ever develop from this? Any further advice on what I should do now, or constructive feedback as to where I didn't go so right is very welcome
ExpatInItaly Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 I don't think it was a lack of physical intimacy on the first date that turned her off. A woman who is attracted to you would probably understand why you didn't make a move the first time you met her. I think she is being honest that she just didn't feel a romantic attraction to you. It happens, and good for her for being honest. 1
carhill Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 Welcome to LS First meeting didn't apparently impel desire for a date, for her. Something I came to understand over many rejections, and dates, was, generally, healthy women can decide they don't like a guy romantically in a few seconds. Other guys are either fence sitters needing more interaction or clear attraction and enthusiastic desire to see further. In this instance, two strangers first meeting you were you and she didn't feel a romantic connection. Continue being you. That's what you'll need to authentically bond with a female for life or however long a relationship lasts. What I noted over many years was that, for myself, the main thing which changed was a combination of becoming worldly and not putting my eggs in one basket, meaning I dated many women as I felt like it, not grabbing onto the first one who said yes. If not for those two aspects, I doubt I'd ever had gotten married. Base personality and 'going slow' was still there but presented in a way which more women found attractive for as long as they did. Could anything still happen here? Unknown. If you all moved in the same social circle and ran into each other occasionally, maybe. As is, I doubt it. One of the billions. 1
kendahke Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 No. If she had any kind of interest, even if you were completely on your gentlemanly tip, she would still be interested in seeing you again. I, myself, wouldn't give her friendship. She made her choice. Do you want to be her male girlfriend that she talks to about other guys she is interested in? 1
smackie9 Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 (edited) It take 7 seconds for a women to decide whether you are BF material or not. Just because you have common interests doesn't mean anything romantic. Women make decisions with their emotions. In those 7 seconds, they analyze, your looks, body language, your pheromones, the way you dress, sound of your voice, your body shape, posture, your mannerisms, how you stimulate them intellectually, sense of humor, etc. If some of those key factors make them excited, they will want to see you again....but it still doesn't guarantee you a relationship. One thing that is off may turn them off. She gave you the friendship card.....dump her ass real quick. You have enough friends. Edited December 9, 2017 by smackie9
iVisa Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 You can try to go on a date one more time. I think that a chemistry is or isn't. We can see it in eyes. In terms of physical contact, I think on first date short touching arms, back and hug are enough but as you know some people even have a sex on a first date...
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