Yosemite Posted December 8, 2017 Posted December 8, 2017 If we are just acquaintances or loose friends why do girls get offended at me calling them bros or dudes? Are they just hyper sensitive? Why do you continue to refer to women as dude and bro when you know they find it offensive? Do you get a kick out of being rude? If not, don’t do things that you know are offensive. Simple.
Popsicle Posted December 8, 2017 Posted December 8, 2017 I don't know, he has a point. I'm not really sure why guys go around calling each other "bro" when they are not actually siblings, but yes, girls have copied it now. Girls tend to copy whatever guys do (which is quite often not good). The only people I call "bro" are my actual brothers. I have been called "sis" by friends who were not my siblings. It's nice when it's the right person saying it.
Author barbossa Posted December 9, 2017 Author Posted December 9, 2017 I still do not see anything wrong with calling women Bros. In my opinion it lets me know how dramatic a girl is If such a little thing gets under her skin . Then how can she handle big issue? Fill I this blank as stated by numerous girls I can't handle ______ because they tend to be over dramatic If I call a girl I like a bro and she's cool about it. I know she's cool. I think one girl only out of all respondents was cool like that. Also if a girl is feeling all entitled and uppity as if I like her I will just call her a bro so she doesn't think I like her in that way I will put you in the bro zone.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 I still do not see anything wrong with calling women Bros. In my opinion it lets me know how dramatic a girl is If such a little thing gets under her skin . Then how can she handle big issue? Fill I this blank as stated by numerous girls I can't handle ______ because they tend to be over dramatic If I call a girl I like a bro and she's cool about it. I know she's cool. I think one girl only out of all respondents was cool like that. Also if a girl is feeling all entitled and uppity as if I like her I will just call her a bro so she doesn't think I like her in that way I will put you in the bro zone. How old are you, bro? 3
Yosemite Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 How old are you, bro? Don’t you mean, how old are you, girlfriend? He’s in his 30’s. 2
NuevoYorko Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 (edited) I still do not see anything wrong with calling women Bros. In my opinion it lets me know how dramatic a girl is If such a little thing gets under her skin . Then how can she handle big issue? I don't think you're quite getting it. They are probably not being dramatic; I doubt you're "setting them off." They just think you're a jerk and they move on to men who don't use such a thing as some kind of barometer. I can't help but think that this is a joke - but just in case, let me suggest that you also hold off from calling women "chick," "babe" or [other names] unless she's already your girlfriend and you know she enjoys it. Edited December 9, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language redacted and member moderated 1
mrs rubble Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 Speaking of demeaning or disparaging, the word 'mate' is used here from one guy to another. When used as a term of friendship between male friends, it's not offensive at all. (It can be also used as an insult depending on inflection, hence me specifying 'a term of friendship') But even when used with no negative connotations, it's very masculine and so nobody would call a woman 'mate'. Same here in NZ, men call each other "mate", in my circle of friends the guys resist the term, as "mates mate" haha!! OP; I wouldn't like to be called "bro" either. Too masculine. 1
GemmaUK Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 I love it when a man calls me or other women bro/dude or something along those lines. Moreso, if he continues when he has been asked not to by me or any woman. It makes him an easy spot and one I can warn my friends about - as in - no way would you want to date him. My friends warn me about guys just like this too. Keep up the good work OP! 3
Author barbossa Posted December 10, 2017 Author Posted December 10, 2017 (edited) Don’t you mean, how old are you, girlfriend? He’s in his 30’s. I take it lightly. My masculinity, isn't threatened, such things don't get under my skin . But that's just me. If someone said that to me I'd play along with it "Hey girl...." I held my gfs purse and asked female retail staff " Girl this purse makes me look so cute right " To brighten their day, make them laugh, Do you see me try to squabble with respondents who ask how I do in my dating life , how I most fare badly with females .... No. Because I'm not offended by their comments My direct manager kept calling me dude when I met him Did I throw a fit an tell him that I'm a highly educated engineer and I find dude offensive? He's in his 50s and has a Wharton mba .... Married with kids .... [] Edited December 10, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Prohibited language removed and member suspended
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 I held my gfs purse and asked female retail staff " Girl this purse makes me look so cute right " To brighten their day, make them laugh, That is a terrible comparison. Not even close to the same thing. 1
Timshel Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 (edited) If we are just acquaintances or loose friends why do girls get offended at me calling them bros or dudes? Are they just hyper sensitive? You asked barbossa and have been answered. Not hyper sensitive, offended. Clearly this was a rhetorical question as you have decided that prevalent opinion is inaccurate and none of your concern. Carry on. [] Edited December 10, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Off-topic discussion of prohibited language redacted and member suspended 3
thefooloftheyear Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 OP... Here is the long and short of it... I doubt you are a horrible guy and I kinda get where you are trying to make comparisons....The problem is that what men say to men, what women say to women, and especially what men say to women, are all on different levels of "acceptability/decorum"..." For instance....I can tell a guy friend he's gained weight if he has, even goof on him, and he'll just laugh it off or say something like "yeah, too many Doritos"...Nothing will happen and no one will get bent over it...Now, what do you think would happen if I said the same thing to a woman I know?? Total disaster...Train wreck... Women who I don't know and just encounter in my daily life have called me sweety, hun, babe, big guy, etc. whatever....Countless times...They even do it now and I am over 50!...Just a few weeks ago, woman in the dentist office calls me from the waiting room and says..."come with me, darling".....Girl at the counter of the gym calls me "babe"..almost every time... Its no big deal...Now can you imagine if a guy says those things to a woman he doesn't know..?? Not everything in this life is going to be equal or considered "no big deal"...To look at what they say to one another and try to make sense of it,use it as justification for saying it. or qualifying a woman as weak for not accepting of it....well...just won't fly... Who knows....Maybe you will find the one woman out there that doesn't care what you call them....But don't count on it... .02 TFY
Yosemite Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 (edited) I take it lightly. My masculinity, isn't threatened, such things don't get under my skin . But that's just me. Great, it doesn’t offend you. You go girl. Everyone is not you, it does offend other people when you refer to them with opposite sex nicknames. A normal person would understand that and not do it. Why you’re so insistent on being offensive is beyond me, but go for it girlfriend. [] Edited December 10, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Multiple prohibited language references redacted and member suspendend 1
William Posted December 10, 2017 Posted December 10, 2017 (edited) OK, with sufficient warning prior, [four] members suspended for use of prohibited language. I trust the cleanup I'll now do will not be followed by any further iterations. Trying to trick moderation and our policies by obfuscating prohibited language earns suspension every time. Please don't do it. Complete information here: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/loveshack-org-questions-comments/546209-policy-individual-group-bashing-berating Thanks! Edited December 10, 2017 by William Added two more and yet again a link to the policy
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