barbossa Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 If we are just acquaintances or loose friends why do girls get offended at me calling them bros or dudes? Are they just hyper sensitive?
guest569 Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 Because bro means brother and they are female? I don’t imagine many men would be impressed with the label “sis”. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 Because "bro" and "dude" are typically masculine monikers. It is rather silly to address women this way, if they're women you have a romantic interest in. Did you really not know this? 2
basil67 Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 Perhaps trying calling them 'sis'. Edited to add: not if you have a romantic interest in them. 1
BaileyB Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 Why do guys get offended if you call them "sis." It's just an immature and stupid thing to do... 2
KBarletta Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 This is one of those questions where I feel like the answer is obvious - women should be addressed with female monikers and pronouns if they so choose. Would you call a male friend, "Gal" or "Babe" or "Chick"? No. Why would this be any different? Here's a tip: Try to treat people with respect and use the names and pronouns and nicknames they choose and not the ones you deem appropriate and you'll find things might go a bit smoother. 3
Els Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 Do girls usually call you "sis" or "girl"? Is that why you think you should be able to call them "bros"/"dude"? 3
Gr8fuln2020 Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 barbossa, Why is it that you don't see anything wrong with it? Come on. 2
smackie9 Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 Call them by their name or call them friend or girl. That seems reasonable. One time my husband called me dude in a conversation. I almost lost it. I felt so disrespected. I understood it was a slip because this is how he talks to his buddies at work (all guys), and he was still in work mode. But that didn't make it feel better. 2
Author barbossa Posted December 7, 2017 Author Posted December 7, 2017 (edited) barbossa, Why is it that you don't see anything wrong with it? Come on. If someone called me stud , [etc], I personally wouldn't get offended I hardly or ever see girls calling each other sister, sis, [] Edited December 7, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language
Author barbossa Posted December 7, 2017 Author Posted December 7, 2017 Call them by their name or call them friend or girl. That seems reasonable. One time my husband called me dude in a conversation. I almost lost it. I felt so disrespected. I understood it was a slip because this is how he talks to his buddies at work (all guys), and he was still in work mode. But that didn't make it feel better. Such a small small thing can set you off?
Gr8fuln2020 Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 (edited) If someone called me stud , [etc], I personally wouldn't get offended I hardly or ever see girls calling each other sister, sis, [] I'm sorry, but are you male or female? The girls who get offended are so b/c you are addressing them with a gender-inappropriate term. That's all. It really is that simple and really, oddly unnecessary. Edited December 7, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edit quote
elaine567 Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 Such a small small thing can set you off? Of course. It is all all about respect and calling a woman a man essentially is not showing respect nor is it flattering... In essence "I am calling you dude or bro, because to me you look like a man..." NO woman would really appreciate that.
healing light Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 I have a lot of guy friends. I would not be offended being called a bro. However, if I had a romantic interest in a guy, I would hope he'd only say that jokingly and not every time... because I would want him to see me as a woman/love interest, not just another bro. I would think that I was friend-zoned if he always referred to me as bro.
William Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 Let's stick with 'bro' and girls getting offended. Departing on a vulgar language excursion is a wonderful way to get one's posting privileges removed. No need for that. Carry on!
basil67 Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 If someone called me stud , [etc], I personally wouldn't get offended I hardly or ever see girls calling each other sister, sis, Of course you wouldn't be offended by 'stud'. It's only ever used towards men and is a compliment. Girls don't call each other sis because we use each other's names. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 i am old school....i find the term....disrespectful to say to a woman or a girl and unappreciative in regards to femininity...deb 1
thefooloftheyear Posted December 7, 2017 Posted December 7, 2017 (edited) Women generally don't like that term "bro" anyway....[]....It's just not something women like hearing, even if you don't mean to be demeaning or disparaging... Don't do it.. TFY Edited December 8, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language redacted and member moderated 3
RecentChange Posted December 8, 2017 Posted December 8, 2017 How are these girls showing their "offense"? How and why do you use those terms? For ME, and my lexicon, and my social circle, "Bro" is kinda derogatory. We have "dude bros" or "bro dudes" those are the obnoxious, loud, frat guy kinda idiots. To use in a sentence: "Oh man, we had to leave the bar, just full of bro dudes" We have "Tech Bros", these are the often clueless, entitled, young tech set. To use in a sentence: Ugh, the train was a nightmare tonight, full of Tech Bros talking about how special their money is and bragging about their terrible start up ideas. Basically - a "bro" is like a frat guy... all the annoying qualities of a frat guy, the kind of guy that would yell across the room "BRO!!! Are we going to go pull some chicks tonight or what?!" Oh and "Brahs" yeah those are coastal / surfer bros. Equally obnoxious, but with a "hang loose" accent. One may hear: "Brah! Where the waves and women at!? Got some kind to smoke BRAH?" So yeah, I would look at someone weird if that called me "bro". Dude.... depends on the person, those may slip by. Some people use "dude" universally to address anyone (especially those surf brahs!) 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 8, 2017 Posted December 8, 2017 I would have nothing in common with a man who called me "bro" or any variation of it. For starters, I would not be attracted to what I inferred about his IQ if he did so. 4
RecentChange Posted December 8, 2017 Posted December 8, 2017 I would have nothing in common with a man who called me "bro" or any variation of it. For starters, I would not be attracted to what I inferred about his IQ if he did so. Exactly. I find "Bro" and most men who use that type of lingo to have very unattractive personalities 1
basil67 Posted December 8, 2017 Posted December 8, 2017 Women generally don't like that term "bro" anyway....[]....It's just not something women like hearing, even if you don't mean to be demeaning or disparaging... Don't do it.. TFY Speaking of demeaning or disparaging, the word 'mate' is used here from one guy to another. When used as a term of friendship between male friends, it's not offensive at all. (It can be also used as an insult depending on inflection, hence me specifying 'a term of friendship') But even when used with no negative connotations, it's very masculine and so nobody would call a woman 'mate'. 1
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