Glokage Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 I dated a girl for 9 months but it was more like a year and a half because we took it slow befor making it official. Things were great in all honesty but late down the road some problems arise, we were both so different. I'm nerdy, dont really care for materialistic things and don't really think smoking or doing any drugs are that cool or neccesary. On the other hand she loved material things but wasn't the type of materialist you'd think after hearing that she just wanted really nice things if she didn't get them it wasn't a problem or anything, she was very outspoken so sometimes it causes problems, and lastly she smokes weed(which honestly now a days is so normal). I didn't really care but I didn't like how distracted and not her self she was when she was high. Aside from that things were awesome we got along great yeah fe argued at times but nothing was ever huge to the point where we thought about breaking up. So basically there was no immediate reasone for me to end things tbh I still love this girl to this day BUT I thought about later on in the future and all I could think of was if we were to get married and have a family who's lifestyle would we live? My calm humble lifestyle or her lavish, look what I got and you don't lifestyle. And I thought about it and one of us would have to sacrifice the way we lived for the other to be happy especially if we're living together, this got to me and I started thinking long and hard so I decided I would end things befor out differences ended up making out relationship toxic. Now it's been a couple months and I'm super sad and miss her so much but I don't want to try and get back with her and over think again and break her heart again, I hated myself enough for seeing how sad I made her once. I just don't know why I'm so sad if I did this for the best of both of us.
HumanMachine Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 You’ve made the right decision and you’ve stuck to your guns - you deserve credit for that. You’re obviously strong minded and in time you will find the right person for you. Not many people can do what you did once the red flags start to appear.
irresolute Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 I think you might had made a mistake broken up with her. It's clear that you both loved each other and that you got along really well, except for the differences in lifestyle. Sometimes we have to make some sacrifices in order to be with the person we love. If none of you are flexible to change, the relationship gets stagnated. I don't think she was unreasonable for being a little materialistic. We all are in one point or the other. But, you chose to let her go. And now you miss her. My advice is to forget about as difficult as it sounds, move on and leave her alone. She probably has already found someone that loves her for what she is, without any condition. Try to find someone who share your same values and way of life. I get your point in that you didn't see a future with her, and that is valid. I still believe that, if there's love, anything else can be worked out. 1
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