Guest Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 My cousin and I have this classmate who likes us both and plans to ask us both out at the same time (confirmed by a mutual friend). My cousin said she would not date him because he is not her type, but he doesn't know that yet. But I would like to give him a chance. The problem is that if he asks me for a date, I am held back by the thought that he would consider dating us at the same time (also confirmed by a mutual friend). I find it disturbing that someone would ask two people who know each other well out at the same time. I am all for someone dating more than one person at a time, but not when the people know each other well. There seems something wrong with that. If I was in this situation, I wouldn't ask two people who knew each other well out for date at the same time because it might cause conflict between the two. I would choose one. I know in my situation, if this classmate asked both my cousin and I for a date, he wouldn't be dating both of us at the same time only because my cousin is planning to refuse, but just the thought that he would date us both if we accepted seems off to me. It may be a sign that he isn't really into either of us that much or he is a serial dater or maybe nothing. I may also be reading too much into this, but I am seeking other opinions on this to see if my concerns are valid and whether it is a good idea to date someone who thinks this way. I appreciate your feedback. Thanks.
sburtug03 Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Your concerns are certainly justified. What you are considering is dating a possible cheater. If he is prepared to date two people at the same time, do not whatever you do get involved. You will get hurt. If he was just keeping his options open and was only to date one of you at a time, can you handle knowing that he also fancies your cousin? It may not be an issue at first, but as your feelings grow for him so too will your awareness of his relationship with your cousin, whether this be platonic or otherwise. My advice is stay away. Luv Samantha x
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