alterest Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 Hey, Do you ever been deleted on social media by your dumper? Mine keep me in her major social media as Facebook, but deleted me on minor social media like those related to movies. What that means? Why someone delete you from minor social media and keep you on major. What doyou think about that?
Author alterest Posted December 3, 2017 Author Posted December 3, 2017 Yeah, indeed. But why the hell someone block you on a movie social media and not on major social media like Facebook. It made me curious cause it make no sense at all.
HumanMachine Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 Yeah, indeed. But why the hell someone block you on a movie social media and not on major social media like Facebook. It made me curious cause it make no sense at all. It doesn’t matter. You are meant to block her. 1
irresolute Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 She is not interested in sharing her daily life or to talk to you but she doesn't see it "dangerous" to keep you as a friend in Facebook. Facebook is somehow impersonal. You don't need to interact with all of your friends but you can still get updates about them. Or maybe she still wants for you to know how she doing...either way, I wouldn't think much. 1
Author alterest Posted December 3, 2017 Author Posted December 3, 2017 She is not interested in sharing her daily life or to talk to you but she doesn't see it "dangerous" to keep you as a friend in Facebook. Facebook is somehow impersonal. You don't need to interact with all of your friends but you can still get updates about them. Or maybe she still wants for you to know how she doing...either way, I wouldn't think much. I'm curious cause Facebook is more personal than "I want to see that movie... I saw that movie". Perhaps the constantly friends updates that that social media produces make her did it. For each movie they send to your friends list what you saw, and perhaps she received some updates from me (not my fault) made her did that. But, as everyone said: Best thing is not think too much.
HumanMachine Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 There is absolutely no benefit to keeping an ex which you’re still recovering from on any form of social media, why haven’t you blocked him?
Author alterest Posted December 3, 2017 Author Posted December 3, 2017 There is absolutely no benefit to keeping an ex which you’re still recovering from on any form of social media, why haven’t you blocked him? I never blocked any ex of mine. I just put to not show any update of them to me. And I don't see their profiles or updates after that. For her, she is bipolar and in a depressed episode and she broke up due her depression (as she said, cause she didn't take her meds for around 6 months, went in stressful situations in her home and her work and suddenly I was the target), perhaps that's means nothing, but I don't know how much it interfers in all of it. I keep holding hope? Yeah, a little bit. But I also improve me, see my friends and when the times comes I will move on.
vickyp Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 It doesn't matter that your ex blocked you. You need to focus on yourself. Plus, if your ex does ever have second thoughts, they will find a way to get in touch with you.
Young mind Posted December 8, 2017 Posted December 8, 2017 Hi, I think of it as immature games, ofc the consensus might be they don’t wanna hear a single thing about you. Mine blocked me of fb, the same hour posted pics with her new bf on holidays, 1 month blocked me on Instagram even when we were not following each other lol, I believe she was thinking or my name popped up somewhere and she remembered she hadn’t blocked me in the last available thing Instagram.These are all little games and if your break up was not messy might be just pull a reaction about it. It might bother you but shake it off soon you will realize when someone blocks you it’s an absolute joke, you just worry now because she dumped you. Stick to Nc, work on yourself and move on
SpecialJ Posted December 8, 2017 Posted December 8, 2017 None of it matters, but she can restrict what you can view on Facebook without blocking you. Maybe she can't on the other site. I once blocked someone in only two places: the ones that would show the time last active. I didn't want any pseudo-stalking access, for either of us, but I didn't block his phone number or email address. But the bigger point, again, is the one the other posters make. Social media doesn't matter for now... focus on yourself!
wallace87 Posted December 8, 2017 Posted December 8, 2017 Been wondering about this myself. No bad breakup, no argument, no formal cutting ties of any kind, just a week without contact after things had gone south abit, and boom, gone. Hurt me, was asking myself why, still am, what could have annoyed to her to make her do something seemingly petty like that. Gues it doesnt matter now anyway
Author alterest Posted December 8, 2017 Author Posted December 8, 2017 Well. I deleted her from my social medias after we had a discussion. She ask for her stuff back, I said ok and also asked her for a talk that she refuses and started to say that I said that I only return her stuff back if she talked to me. I said that was not true, that I only wanted to talk but it's ok if she doesn't want to. After a lot of discussion she said that she will pick her stuffs in my home and ignored me completly after that... I tried to call her and she didn't answered (stupid, I know) and I said that I will return her stuffs in that same day so that will be a less stress thing, cause she is depressed and told me that she had a stressful end of year. When I arrive she was pretty angry, I return her stuff and tried to ask apologize for discussion but she cut me off saying that I was abusive for going there without saying anything, but before she saw the message and said that I should wait before going to someones home, even to return stuffs. In my conception, went to ex home to return stuffs and asked apologize is not abusive, but I am a little confused. What do you think? Returned her stuff after told her that I'm going there was abusive?
Author alterest Posted December 9, 2017 Author Posted December 9, 2017 Been wondering about this myself. No bad breakup, no argument, no formal cutting ties of any kind, just a week without contact after things had gone south abit, and boom, gone. Hurt me, was asking myself why, still am, what could have annoyed to her to make her do something seemingly petty like that. Gues it doesnt matter now anyway As everyone said, doesn't matter why, but that thing happened. I've tried to understand why she broke up with me after all, but I didn't understand. And you know what? Doesn't matter. Maybe she did it cause her depression, maybe she did it cause her feelings changed, maybe anything, but it doesn't change one fact: She broke up. And keep in touch is pointless and I do belive that I can talk with her before our fight and you know what? I can't. She doesn't want to and I have nothing to talk to her. If one day she want to have something with me, fine. I'll see if it make sense for me and give another try or not. But I can't change her feelings and holding hope is a one way expectation, cause it's pointless. I'm very hurt yet, I tried to initiate a discuss about a stupid thing cause I'm hurt and at the end of the day I feel like an idiot with a abusive label by her (aaannd, still waiting for the point of the view of you guys about it, see my previous post, please?)
Captivating Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 If I were you, I would block her on facebook ... you should not see her what she is up to because it will keep you stuck, it will throw you back to square one each time. This way you have a healthier way of moving on. Please watch this video : 1
Author alterest Posted December 9, 2017 Author Posted December 9, 2017 If I were you, I would block her on facebook ... you should not see her what she is up to because it will keep you stuck, it will throw you back to square one each time. This way you have a healthier way of moving on. Please watch this video : I already did it. My only complain is about her saying that what I had done was abusive. And I ask that not because I will ask apologize or anythinthing about her, but about me. I didn't see it as an abusive behavior (since I went there just to drop her things, and I said I'm going to do that when she start to ignores me.)
Captivating Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 Alterest, You blocking her on social media as a dumpee is for SELF PRESERVATION , not for any kind of abuse. She is self centered and very inconsiderate if she cannot see things from your perspective why you deleted her from Facebook. You should not care about what she thinks ... You did the right thing, this will make your life easier in a sense that you are not facing the reality of her moving on with her life by looking at her daily activities that she posts about .... because that's what we dumpees do, compare our lives and get upset about it ... which is so silly. I would encourage you to focus on yourself and your future. Tiny little goals everyday, you will gain momentum and your focus will shift towards better things and people. Breakups suck ... slowly you will start to feel better each day and eventually move on completely. 1
Author alterest Posted December 9, 2017 Author Posted December 9, 2017 Alterest, You blocking her on social media as a dumpee is for SELF PRESERVATION , not for any kind of abuse. She is self centered and very inconsiderate if she cannot see things from your perspective why you deleted her from Facebook. You should not care about what she thinks ... You did the right thing, this will make your life easier in a sense that you are not facing the reality of her moving on with her life by looking at her daily activities that she posts about .... because that's what we dumpees do, compare our lives and get upset about it ... which is so silly. I would encourage you to focus on yourself and your future. Tiny little goals everyday, you will gain momentum and your focus will shift towards better things and people. Breakups suck ... slowly you will start to feel better each day and eventually move on completely. She called me abusive because I went to her home to return her things after we have a fight and she said that she will go to my home to take her stuff back and I said that I will go to her homes so she doesn't have any other stress in her life. There's nothing to do with I deleted her, is about I went to her home to return her stuff. She called me abusive for that, not for deleted her.
Captivating Posted December 9, 2017 Posted December 9, 2017 I just read the part of your thread about her accusing you with abuse ... NO, it was not abuse dropping her stuff off. I bet she felt bad saying that after reading your text messages that you tried to reach out beforehand and actually help her out with dropping her stuff off. I think she needs to see a medical doctor to sort her condition out and to get better. She made her choice breaking up, you tried to talk to her, yet she has a paranoid take on everything ... which is unfortunate. I would stay away. Her parents should handle her situation. 1
Author alterest Posted December 9, 2017 Author Posted December 9, 2017 I just read the part of your thread about her accusing you with abuse ... NO, it was not abuse dropping her stuff off. I bet she felt bad saying that after reading your text messages that you tried to reach out beforehand and actually help her out with dropping her stuff off. I think she needs to see a medical doctor to sort her condition out and to get better. She made her choice breaking up, you tried to talk to her, yet she has a paranoid take on everything ... which is unfortunate. I would stay away. Her parents should handle her situation. Don't know if she felt bad... I told that what happened perhaps was creepy and invasive, and she said "CREAPIEST" and stopped to talk. Now I have no intent to talk to her again anyway. She do need to see her doctor, maybe she is not bipolar but BPD. I don't know and I don't wanna to think about it. Maybe she will feel sad in the future when the angry fades away. But who knows if I will hear about her again... She really hurt me saying that. Improve myself and move on right now!! 1
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