monkey00 Posted August 21, 2005 Share Posted August 21, 2005 First off I have this co-worker, lets call him Jack, which im pretty cool with and if given the opportunity we could even be friends... Sometimes me and him go play pool during the middle of the week after work. Usually we get along pretty well. And normally every friday he asks me to give him a call if im going pooling (with my friends), so he can play too. And i do the same routine and say, sure. The few times that he's hung out with me and my friends...not much talking going on. Then a week ago one of those friends tells me that Jack releases a depressive vibe....The ONLY reason why he says that is cause he compares to someone we knew from h.s. Anyway they dont know him like i do so that's all they have to say. Anyway from their reactions, i usually try not to get them together anymore. So the problem - Jack wants to play pool with us on fridays, and my friends dont get along with him, or doest like his depressive vibe. And usually i dont call him up altho i know he wants to play. What do i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Tahretoy Posted August 21, 2005 Share Posted August 21, 2005 Well, this is my first post here on this forum, and well here goes. The truth is if more than one friend feels this way, it may not be a jealousy thing on the part of your friends. If it were just one friend, then I would question the jealousy factor. Sometimes negative people can "pull" you in and you don't realize it, and because you are around his energy all day at work, you may be getting "swallowed" up into Jack's vibe. I'd listen to your friends on this one. Tell Jack you are busy, and since you work with him, still be nice. Good Luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkey00 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Share Posted August 22, 2005 Thanks for the response. - I understand what you're saying but Jack isnt a negative person at all. He's just careful about what he wants to talk about. And you could say it takes awhile for him to get into a comfortable mood to talk openly about things. He is a little closed off, but hey thats how he is. Hell i wouldnt mind being friends at all. I think the problem here are my friends. They're making an issue out of nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Taharetoy Posted August 22, 2005 Share Posted August 22, 2005 Well,it's your call then, and it sounds like you know what your decision might be. Good luck. Hope you made a new friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkey00 Posted August 24, 2005 Author Share Posted August 24, 2005 Well at this point i dont have any real options to resolve this. Tell him what my friends think of him, which would make him feel bad...which i doubt would improve the situation. Or not say anything at all about it. So all in all thats that. probably weekends i could call him up to hang out, but too late now classes are starting again. Link to post Share on other sites
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