knight192 Posted November 30, 2017 Posted November 30, 2017 Hi I had my first date with that girl I met through Tinder last Thursday. We got on really well and ended up kissing. I quite liked her and she seemed interested by me as well. We kept a bit in touch by text but like maybe 2 or 3 simple text. She didn't text me of the weekend but I know she went to see her family. Then had some news Sunday eve, Monday and Tuesday morning and I told her I was going in business to France Wednesday Thursday and if she wanted to meet up again over the weekend. She said she had things planned so I asked if it would be easier for her next week and she said yes. Anyway, went to France, and since not a single message, not even to ask how was my trip going!! So I sent her a text to know how she was doing Wednesday eve but no answers so far. What shall I understand? It's a shame I am interested and thought she was.
smackie9 Posted November 30, 2017 Posted November 30, 2017 it is what it is. I bet she had other dates lined for the weekend and not all about seeing her family. Move on. Tip: an interested person keeps in touch and makes time to see you.
coolheadal Posted November 30, 2017 Posted November 30, 2017 Hi I had my first date with that girl I met through Tinder last Thursday. We got on really well and ended up kissing. I quite liked her and she seemed interested by me as well. We kept a bit in touch by text but like maybe 2 or 3 simple text. She didn't text me of the weekend but I know she went to see her family. Then had some news Sunday eve, Monday and Tuesday morning and I told her I was going in business to France Wednesday Thursday and if she wanted to meet up again over the weekend. She said she had things planned so I asked if it would be easier for her next week and she said yes. Anyway, went to France, and since not a single message, not even to ask how was my trip going!! So I sent her a text to know how she was doing Wednesday eve but no answers so far. What shall I understand? It's a shame I am interested and thought she was. You are one in many of her dates. Don't expect much from her. Move on when you don't hear from them back. She's not interested in where you gone or what your doing. She has made other arrangements. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2017 Posted November 30, 2017 there are multiple possible explanations & only she knows which one(s) are true: 1. She didn't fancy you 2. Some bad news happened 3. she likes to play the chase game 4. She's multi-dating & can't fit you in 5. She thought your trip was an excuse & cover up for you multi dating 6. She only wanted a hook up You can try one more time with a definitive plan but I'd give up after that
Author knight192 Posted December 1, 2017 Author Posted December 1, 2017 I would cross out "she was not interested", I mean we kissed in the middle of the date and carried on like that for one or two hours. Why would you kiss someone if you are not interested? Anyway let's say she multi dates and might have found someone she even prefer to me, fair enough. Then why don't say it to me ? Or whatever she wants instead of just texting me then stop then text again and then ignoring me? What kind of behaviour is that. And sorry to say that but that's not the first time I see woman acting this way and I find it really disappointing. I mean i'm quite correct and respectful guy, so for example last time I dated a girl I wasn't into, when she asked me what I thought I clearly told her (but nicely) that I don't think it would work on the long term and that we should be friend. So she doesn't hope or waste her time. That's the less thing to do really so why woman can't behave and stop playing the hell out when it's on to them to give an answer??
d0nnivain Posted December 1, 2017 Posted December 1, 2017 Sadly most people can't give other's bad news / rejection. It has become the norm to ignore people & leave them wondering so you don't have to be uncomfortable saying no thank you. It's pathetic but people have no curtesy any more
carhill Posted December 1, 2017 Posted December 1, 2017 OP, with these early encounters seek to see them as discrete experiences not a continuum with attendant expectations. You had a good time and you shared some physical affection. EOS. If you both want a repeat of that, it'll happen. If not, not. Note I wrote 'both'. Pro tip: Trying to read a woman's mind will drive one to madness so don't bother. Go with the real. There's no date lined up and she didn't ask you about your trip. That's real. Accept it.
KBarletta Posted December 1, 2017 Posted December 1, 2017 I agree with what others have said, chances are that if she's on Tinder, she's got other options and has been exploring them and probably found one that she clicked with. If you're still interested, with a weekend coming up, I might try sending one more message and see what happens but beyond that, I'd just chalk it up to "sh*t happens" and move on to other people.
smackie9 Posted December 1, 2017 Posted December 1, 2017 I would cross out "she was not interested", I mean we kissed in the middle of the date and carried on like that for one or two hours. Why would you kiss someone if you are not interested? Anyway let's say she multi dates and might have found someone she even prefer to me, fair enough. Then why don't say it to me ? Or whatever she wants instead of just texting me then stop then text again and then ignoring me? What kind of behaviour is that. And sorry to say that but that's not the first time I see woman acting this way and I find it really disappointing. I mean i'm quite correct and respectful guy, so for example last time I dated a girl I wasn't into, when she asked me what I thought I clearly told her (but nicely) that I don't think it would work on the long term and that we should be friend. So she doesn't hope or waste her time. That's the less thing to do really so why woman can't behave and stop playing the hell out when it's on to them to give an answer?? dude you have women asking the same thing on here....it's not just something women do....it's people in general on dating sites.
hercules22 Posted December 1, 2017 Posted December 1, 2017 yeah anyone off tinder your expectation should be very low cause most of the times females will get way more matches compared to us men aka way more options and alot of girls from tinder seem to multi date so you might aswell move on to the next girl
GemmaUK Posted December 1, 2017 Posted December 1, 2017 I would cross out "she was not interested", I mean we kissed in the middle of the date and carried on like that for one or two hours. Why would you kiss someone if you are not interested? Anyway let's say she multi dates and might have found someone she even prefer to me, fair enough. Then why don't say it to me ? Or whatever she wants instead of just texting me then stop then text again and then ignoring me? What kind of behaviour is that. And sorry to say that but that's not the first time I see woman acting this way and I find it really disappointing. I mean i'm quite correct and respectful guy, so for example last time I dated a girl I wasn't into, when she asked me what I thought I clearly told her (but nicely) that I don't think it would work on the long term and that we should be friend. So she doesn't hope or waste her time. That's the less thing to do really so why woman can't behave and stop playing the hell out when it's on to them to give an answer?? Kissing isn't a contract. It's just kissing. The bolded part - how does your Mum/Sister/Aunt/Daughter feel when you say this about them? They are women too. Ate they aware you come across so angry - because much as you say you are a good guy- you sound more like a self proclaimed nice guy when you get all antsy. Don't get your knickers in a twist, life will be simpler.
staggerlee71 Posted December 1, 2017 Posted December 1, 2017 too soon!! pursue or don't, don't look for what she wants. look for what you want. if your over analyzing now, your in for a ride...good luck
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