DontBreakEven Posted November 30, 2017 Posted November 30, 2017 I must admit, I am a hopeless romantic. Emphasis on hopeless, perhaps. Recently I started talking to someone. We met online and talked for 5 weeks before we were even able to meet up in person because she doesn't live in the same city as me at the moment (she is from here, and may come back here eventually, but currently does not reside here). Anyway, she is now here for a month visiting family. We met and went on our first date, and it was wonderful. A really good time .. the connection was just as good as it was online. I kissed her, and we have a date set for this weekend. But. 1) The reality is, she will be gone in a month, and it could be a while before she returns. She has a very demanding job that requires world travel. Also, during her time here, she will be working and visiting with family a lot, so it's not like we will be seeing each other all the time. 2) I mean, I don't know her super well yet, but there are some things about her so far that I absolutely adore, and also some things that I am concerned may not completely mesh well with someone like myself in the long run. 3) She's not looking for anything per se, but also not opposed to the idea. She just wants to keep going and see what happens. Basically, I've never dated and invested time and emotional energy just to date and invest time and emotional energy. I typically always am thinking long term, as I get attached pretty easily. I'm already quite attached to this girl, and I know I would be even more so if we slept together (which most likely will happen, the way things are going). How can I train myself to just enjoy what is ... something nice experiencing a connection with a person ... without jumping 50 steps ahead and worrying about what could/will be? Is anyone truly an expert at this? And if so, can you teach me?
carhill Posted November 30, 2017 Posted November 30, 2017 Women are interchangeable until one is not. Think about it. There are billions of them on the planet. Do they really care whether you live or die? Nah, none, well, OK your mother does if she's still around. The rest, nada. Approach dating like that and it'll work out. Sure, women like to know they own you but a smart man keeps them guessing. I was dumb for many years and a hopeless romantic like you. Getting married teaches things.
divegrl Posted November 30, 2017 Posted November 30, 2017 Become self aware of your thoughts and emotions. Learn to live in the present moment. Breathe. Meditate. Everything in your mind will just be a fantasy.... and you will be attached to an illusion. Good luck my friend!!!!
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