barbossa Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 How confident are you in your self? In your looks, body, personality, status How confident are you in going up to any person you are interested in and 1) introducing yourself 2) asking them out in first conversation It's easy AF to be confident behind a computer screen If it's not about the money, looks, status What's holding you back?
d0nnivain Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 I could always talk to anybody in a social situation, well at least starting in grad school. In HS if a boy looked at me, I ran & hid. I was never brave enough to actually ask a man out on a date (but I did ask a few boys to go to sorority formals with me in college). I did usually do enough to make the guy understand I wanted him to ask me out.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 I could always talk to anybody in a social situation, well at least starting in grad school. In HS if a boy looked at me, I ran & hid. I was never brave enough to actually ask a man out on a date (but I did ask a few boys to go to sorority formals with me in college). I did usually do enough to make the guy understand I wanted him to ask me out. Haha....SOO me. In junior high, I literally hid in the locker room. For hours until he finally gave up on me coming out! Good news is, we're still friends (on Facebook at least lol).
rushed Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 I walk around all day like I am the ish - chin up, strutting around, feeling good about myself. Confidence level: 8. But the second I see a really gorgeous guy? Confidence level: 0. I'm 13 again, awkward and shy, can't even make eye contact, and running in the opposite direction. For some reason gorgeous guys (strangers at least) intimidate the heck out of me. Once I talk to them on a regular basis, though, (like coworkers), I'm back to my usual confident self.
mortensorchid Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 I have been struggling with things in this department for a very long time. I have been told I have a good body and face, I have a good personality and I'm chatty with others but I don't monopolize the conversation. I'm happy for the most part but struggling to get ahead and survive in life. But I would give myself a 4 in the confidence department. Others do not seem to respond to me in the best ways as I would like. I get passed over for someone else constantly. CONSTANTLY. So I assume now if and when I meet someone they don't want me or will find a reason not to like me anymore.
carhill Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 At my age, approaching and talking with strangers of any age is easy. Life is like that. However, I've only ever met one person in my entire life who I wanted to 'ask out' when first encountering and, eh, didn't do enough intel work and did go out with her and she was married with a 2yo daughter at home Hate numbers but I'll go with six, reflecting minor bits of anxiety when thrown into completely unfamiliar territory. Nowhere near as smooth as those CIA folks.
jay1983 Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 I'm fairly attractive.........Well I'll just say I'm physically attractive to a subset of women. Anyways, if I don't get any type of signal to approach and introduce myself, like a direct look and smile, I just don't bother.
snowboy91 Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 Haven't had to do that in a long time, but I imagine if I was single I'd be hopeless. I'd be too nervous of looking like an idiot, or being labelled a creeper or have a drink thrown in my face. Although if I'm at a party confidence goes up a lot. Probably because people aren't complete strangers.
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