fred123 Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 asking a girl after two dates to join you on holiday together? too soon and desparate right? but prince harry did it.... and was successful? please explain
CptInsano Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 but prince harry did it.... and was successful? please explain If you are royalty also, what is holding you back? P.S.: I once went on vacation with a woman I had talked to for 30 minutes the night before. 4
olivetree Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 It's only desperate if you're coming from a place of desperation. 3
d0nnivain Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 It's waaaaaayyyy too soon fred123. You need to give this woman time to prove she's worthy of your affections & attentions. Prince Harry was able to break the rules, because, well, he's Prince Harry. If you are royalty (the real kind or even the fake celebrity kind) you too can behave badly & certain people will still come running because they want to be famous by association 2
carhill Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 asking a girl after two dates to join you on holiday together? too soon and desparate right? Potentially overwhelming would be my perspective. Holidays are usually filled with family and friends, all likely unknown to this person at this point unless she's been a member of your social circle for awhile. Even as a guy I'd likely think twice about it if a lady I had just met invited me to a holiday celebration where we'd be perceived as a 'couple'. A general NYE party, maybe. but prince harry did it.... and was successful? please explain He has a pretty well-known family 1
smackie9 Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 If you have already been intimate, then yes it wouldn't be out of line to plan a holiday.
RecentChange Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 A prince could take me on a holiday for a first date Royalty doesn't really have to follow the same rules the rest of us do. As for too soon. If she really digs you, trusts you, is comfortable with you, and you two get along just great - it might not be too soon. But most people do not have that level of familiarity after two dates. 2
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 P.S.: I once went on vacation with a woman I had talked to for 30 minutes the night before. How did this come about? Sounds like a great story. 1
CptInsano Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 How did this come about? Sounds like a great story. Nothing that exceptional. We met at a party the night before and we both had time off. She mentioned she wanted to see some reservations in Arizona and hike some of the lesser-known canyons. That sounded much better than spending another week with my relatives in Los Angeles, so off we went the next morning. No romance ensued even though it was just us for that week, hardly any other human contact in the high desert. The trip itself was great, and we remained friends for a few years. 4
basil67 Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 Prince Harry's destination was somewhere where they could get to know each other without being hounded by the media. If you and your new date and famous and need to escape media, then I expect it would be quite a welcome suggestion. 2
Imajerk17 Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 (edited) asking a girl after two dates to join you on holiday together? too soon and desparate right? but prince harry did it.... and was successful? please explain As far as answering this question, there are some relevant details you are leaving out OP. Such as how did the first two dates go. I mean, if she seems truly into you and you truly want her to join you on this adventure, then well fortune favours the bold you only live once. She just might say yes. If she ended up making your dates together early nights because {insert some lame excuse here} then, maybe not so much Meanwhile you are not Prince Harry. Prince Harry's woman knew who he was before they went on their first date for one thing. If a woman got offered a holiday with a handsome single Prince her friends would be swooning and begging her to say yes; a holiday with a "random" guy she doesn't know much about her friends would be telling her she needs to be careful as she doesn't know the guy. Edited November 28, 2017 by Imajerk17
Gaeta Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 Don't spend that kind of money on a woman you only had 2 dates with. And.... Let her prove to you she is worthy of your generosity. 1
Sunlight72 Posted November 28, 2017 Posted November 28, 2017 (edited) My third date was to go to Kauai, Hawai'i for two weeks (I live in Colorado). And the trip to Kauai was one of the highlights of my life, and a great time for her as well! If you are feeling really at peace and healthy with her, do it! You only live once man! We had a fun, active relationship for a year and a half afterwards, including many two day trips, and a week in Mexico and a few weeks in Europe. We split up a few months ago, as I was working too much, and she wanted more dedicated time than I was willing to carve out, amongst other small but real differences. We are currently good friends. I had a great time, and have a great story in my life However, you did leave out details that would allow me to make a more specific yes/no recommendation... The important details in our case; - we knew each other a little bit for about a year before going out. - Kissed on the first date. A little more on the second. Both of those dates were long - a 4.5 hour bike ride/hike in the mountains, and second date we summitted a 14000 foot mountain on an 8 hour hike. - Agreed before going on the vacation that neither was promising the other any level of romance, but were going as friends, and could be good companions whether or not it turned into more. Yes, we actually talked about this, just like this. - I was 43, she was 45, so not 20's. Pretty mature people, and are able to make boundaries and be adults. - Vacation house where we were going had 2 bedrooms, and there were no other friends or relatives on the island. - We became more romantic, but only after two or three days of exploring the island together as warm friends. - I paid my air fare, and about half of our meals, etc. She had already booked the vacation rental house before we started dating, so she was comfortable paying that, and at the time I couldn't have come up with that money (we left about 5 days after our second date during which she had invited me), but we talked about that before I bought my ticket. Edited November 28, 2017 by Sunlight72 2
d0nnivain Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 fred123 Do you see anything in common among all the men who told you that they did travel with a new woman very soon after meeting her? All of those men were confident. They took these early trips because doing so seemed like fun. They asked the women along because it seemed like a hoot. Not one of them arranged these elaborate trips to impress these women. It was simply about having a good time. Carpe diem! These guys would have had a blast on these trips just because they have fun whatever they are doing. If you are not in that headspace, postpone asking a new woman to travel with you. 4
mortensorchid Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 HRH has his being a prince behind him that would allow him a certain advantage with women that average men do not have, don't compare yourself to him. But to answer your question... I agreed that 2 dates in is too soon to bring someone home to the parents / family yet for a holiday. Simply ask them what their plan is for the holiday (ex. Thanksgiving), say you are going to your (insert relative's name here). Explain that you feel it's a bit too soon to bring them to meet the family but you are still wanting to be with them when the holiday is over. If they don't react well... That's an answer you may not want to see but pay attention. A good woman will say that's fine have fun.
Highndry Posted November 29, 2017 Posted November 29, 2017 I sure wouldn't want to meet the whole extended family after 2 dates, but that's just me. I remember going to dinner with a past gf's father and his wife early on in the relationship and it seemed a bit soon.
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