bsully12 Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Hi guys... I've never been on here before... but I needed another opinion. My bf (of 10 months) is Baptist, and I am Catholic. He's been away for the summer at a religious family resort, because that's where he's worked summers since he was little. I haven't seen him at all in the past two months, but we've written letters and talked on the phone. Four days ago he called me. At first he sounded normal - perfectly himself. Then, all of a sudden, he got upset. Somebody handed him a Bible, and he was like "I'm sorry but I have to do this because I love you." He started preaching to me and throwing Bible verses. He told me my religion is wrong and he has to "save" me. I've never heard him so upset. It really scared me. I think he was probably brainwashed up there ... but I don't know. I haven't received any letters or calls since that one. I don't know what to do, and if I can hope that maybe he'll be himself again when he gets home. I'm despairing because this is what his family wanted from him - they always warned him that I was Catholic. Should I be upset because religion has turned into a way to descriminate and he's fallen into it, or should I keep in my heart the hope that he is smarter than that? The hope that, if he does love me as he says, he won't do this... ?
Iluvsiamese Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 Honey, I just had to answer you. I have been in this situation only reversed. I was the "baptist" and he was the catholic. (Twice, in fact.) Yes, his family and his church contacts are encouraging him to make you "see the light." I went through the entire scenario. At the time, I felt awful about it and couldn't understand the problems my parents had with the picture. I thought that they were being obnoxious etc. I believed what I had been taught, but I was uncomfortable attempting to force it on others. I still to this day believe that that is wrong. There are other, better ways to get someone to listen to you. HOWEVER, I have to be perfectly honest with you. The two belief systems are not compatible. They will not work together and one of you will have to give substantial ground on your values. It is easy to say that you can go to your church and he to his, but in the long run this simply will not work. So my parents (both long gone now) were partly right. Their modus operandi was lacking in what I consider to be true Christian love and kindness but they were correct in thinking that you could not combine the two faiths without losing essential parts. Try to keep an open mind, wrt your boyfriend. It sounds as though he is not comfortable going after you this way. It also sounds like you are both young yet and so let this be a relationship that you learn from. While the two religions may not be compatible, they both have much to offer in life lessons.
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