sweetgirl75 Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 I decided a couple of weeks ago to try OLD again. With my job it is hard for me to meet guys so I thought I would give it a try again. I had sworn I would never do it again because of the heartbreak I had in the last year. I did not want to put all guys in the category of my last OLD disaster. This time around I thought I would try and boost my confidence some and message guys first and this one guy seemed like he was okay and then he turned out to be really mean. Now I feel worse than ever. I was doing well. I had six months worth of healing and feeling better about myself from the last guy I had been with and now it is back to square one. I am not a model by any means. I am decent looking. I guess it is easy for some to be mean behind the computer.
Buriall Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 yeah dont let these kind of people bring you down as soon as you find out who REALLY they are move on...keep trying and be on the lookout for these jerks.. all the best 2
Teknoe Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 I decided a couple of weeks ago to try OLD again. With my job it is hard for me to meet guys so I thought I would give it a try again. I had sworn I would never do it again because of the heartbreak I had in the last year. I did not want to put all guys in the category of my last OLD disaster. This time around I thought I would try and boost my confidence some and message guys first and this one guy seemed like he was okay and then he turned out to be really mean. Now I feel worse than ever. I was doing well. I had six months worth of healing and feeling better about myself from the last guy I had been with and now it is back to square one. I am not a model by any means. I am decent looking. I guess it is easy for some to be mean behind the computer. OLD, like any other form of dating, is just a numbers game. I did OLD for like 5 years before finding a right match. Probably had a good 20 or so dates before I found one I liked and that liked me back. It can be tough, but don't take anything personally. Just do you and live your life. 4
mortensorchid Posted November 27, 2017 Posted November 27, 2017 That guy is probably mean to everyone he meets in every situation possible, so don't take it as a personal attack against you. That's what I tell myself when I encounter an OLD disaster or someone is mean to me under other circumstances. Chances are you will never see or hear from him again (the OLD you are talking about) but those who do things like that are just plain bad to begin with. I bet if you met any friends and acquaintance they would tell you the same things about him. 1
Chilli Posted November 27, 2017 Posted November 27, 2017 Yeah , just right it off and don't waste your hard earned esteem on it, means absolutely nothing. Just think , any person on this planet no matter who or what they are can go onto one of those sites and say anything they want behind a keyboard. Ya sorta gotta remember that and take any crap with a grain of salt. 1
Zippy2000 Posted November 27, 2017 Posted November 27, 2017 How was he mean? Are you on a free dating site? The free sites are the worse and anyone can go on there and sign up. Hiding behind a PC is easy to do. I bet most people wont be like that in real life. Don't let one man spoil your way to happiness 1
sdraw108 Posted November 27, 2017 Posted November 27, 2017 Try not to feel that you're back to square one. You're not. Every interaction and date you have is a learning experience. It teaches you what you look out for, what people are like, and what your preferences are. Remember, you're no worse off than you were before this idiot came along. He is the one that will lose out because of his attitude, not you. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 27, 2017 Posted November 27, 2017 Forget OLD & dating right now. Do some things to boost your self esteem. If some random person can be mean to you behind a computer & send you into this much of a tizzy you have issues which must be addressed & resolved so you can be in a happier healthier place to date. When you are stronger & in a better place it will be easier to date. You will attract a better class of people too.
caveman621 Posted November 27, 2017 Posted November 27, 2017 I guess I am one of the few OLD success stories. But it happens! How was he mean? My advice is just to go on dates and try to have fun. Better than another night at home. And just TRY not to put too much thought into it. If you're looking at each date as a potential life partner it's too fraught! Too much pressure. Just TRY to have fun. If you like him, have another date! If you don't, block him and be done with him! 1
Author sweetgirl75 Posted November 30, 2017 Author Posted November 30, 2017 I guess I am one of the few OLD success stories. But it happens! How was he mean? My advice is just to go on dates and try to have fun. Better than another night at home. And just TRY not to put too much thought into it. If you're looking at each date as a potential life partner it's too fraught! Too much pressure. Just TRY to have fun. If you like him, have another date! If you don't, block him and be done with him! I am happy to hear of your success. That is awesome!!! He had mentioned something negative about a picture that I had a filter on. He said I must need it because of my looks. That is old news now. I am going forward now.
Author sweetgirl75 Posted November 30, 2017 Author Posted November 30, 2017 How was he mean? Are you on a free dating site? The free sites are the worse and anyone can go on there and sign up. Hiding behind a PC is easy to do. I bet most people wont be like that in real life. Don't let one man spoil your way to happiness He mentioned something negative about a picture I had with a filter on it. He said I must need it because of my looks. Yes it was a free dating site. I have been sick so things seemed worse than they really were.
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