babydoll4ever Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Just reposting this, but I am kindda disappointed, hope I can get some advice from anyone, thank you! I met this guy that I JUST started seeing for like a week, and it JUST become alittle bit more on the surface now (like kisses and holding hands) like three nights ago. However, I told him that I'd be busy the next whole week but I said we could meet on Saturday night(which is tonight) and he was happy about that. He said I can call him during these period if I want to. So I phone him on Thursday and last night and he didn't answer, I left two msg saying that I hope he's not too tired and hope he has a good night and I am pretty tired (cuz we've been seeing each other for like 3 nights in a roll until like 2am while we both have to work early in the morning), and I told him to call me back. I even left a text msg too. I was hoping he'd at least call me back, or email me or sth, but I didn't get any response. He works for the army now during summer so he basically doesn't get off till like 9pm or sth. He said he likes me but I wonder why he doesn't really call, I didn't even see him online either. The only times he phoned was to meet up, and I dunno if by calling him would it makes me seem desparate? and scares him off, but he seesm to be such a sweetheart, except the fact that he just doesn't call much....he seems to be shy sometimes, and unfortunately I am kindda like that too, just picking up the phone to call him takes A LOT of courage out of me. I dunno if I gave him the wrong idea that I didn't want to talk much or see him much (since i'm so busy next week, and i have some personal things to take care of, that's what i told him). When he sees me though he seems to be very happy...I think I am going crazy, I was thinking about him the whole night last night, and this morning too....I just don't know if I should still call him, we said we would see each other tonight but if i get no calls before that I dunno what to think............he seem very interested and sincere last time we talked, and doesn't seem like the type of guy that plays around.......my friend says he could be just crazily busy, but I dunno. Any comments?
curiousnycgirl Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 I think you need to slow down. If I understand correctly - you've just met this guy like a week ago. Three dates already is way too much! Secondly you've already left 2 messages and sent a text - let it go (to be honest this is bordering on a little stalky/desperate - but not yet don't worry). The ball is in his court, give him some time to respond. I agree with your friends he may be crazy busy and not had time to even check his messages yet. Finally he may just not be a phone person - lots of guys aren't. They don't like to chit chat on the phone, but use it as a utility to get something done - like schedule a date. I think you should go about your business, schedule soemthing else for tonight and if he calls, he calls. To be honest if he calls later today about tonight - I would say that since you hadn't heard from him, you made other plans. This will only show him that you have your own life - and aren't waiting around for him, which should be true!!! (it also offsets the sorta stalky/desperate thing above) Then he will know if he plans/wants to see you over the weekend - he should return your call during the week.
RecordProducer Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 He certainly didn't get the impression that you are not interested in him after spending great time together and messaging him a few times. In any case, guys chase us even when we don't like them, not to mention when we do. But sometimes people get scared. Perhaps you're too good for him or he loves someone else. Maybe he's just out of town. In any case, there's not much you can do but sit and wait. You'll see what happens later. I don't like that he told you that you could call him if you want, but he doesn't call. A really interested guy, even a schmuck calls. I wish you stated your age. In any case, don't despair. You've got nothing to lose. Don't call him anymore! wait for his call. He should call you more often than you call him.
babydoll4ever Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 Thank you for your replies! He called me about later in the evening only becuz he thought I was out of town cuz I Told him I might be, and it's true that he just wasn't around the phone and he doesn't like using phone much. I guess I have to say the major reason why I was alittle anxious is only becuz Yes I don't have a life, not here, I just moved to this town about a month or so, and i haven't made many friends except one but she just went back to her hometown too cuz she's a summer student here. I suppose only becuz I dunno ANYONE here, no friends no families, and I just started working here too...so honestly I really dun have much to do except to "wait around" and do my own things....I know 3 dates in a week is quite alot, but also cuz I can't make any time too after tonite at least until end of next week, I dun even know how we move so fast. But you are right about not calling, I probably would stop calling him so often, and I will tell him to call me if he feels like it... Thanks for the advice though!
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