jerrygordon3 Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 So I’ve traveled and also tend to get pursued by women who are either foreign or from east coast/ Texas/ Nebraska. Etc. Then women tend to be better looking than the girls who pursue a relationship in San Diego where I live, and also they seem to want to settle down and don’t let me looks be as much of an issue I guess. I am well built and been told I’m very good looking, I’m not skeezy, I’m a gentleman but, it seems like women in San Diego seem to think I’m just a player and it’s hard to convince some women otherwise. Point being when I’ve traveled out of state to certain areas I get pursued by women I would love to actually date only to fly back to Sd and deal with the ever changing indecisive dating scene here. I want to meet someone, and have been looking to move for years. So, if anyone has any suggestions for nice rural areas with a good dating scene please let me know so far I’m open to anything as I’m a nurse and can relaocare anywhere to settle down. Just always been in San Diego and want to leave but don’t want to end up in another crazy city
stillafool Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 So I’ve traveled and also tend to get pursued by women who are either foreign or from east coast/ Texas/ Nebraska. Etc. Then women tend to be better looking than the girls who pursue a relationship in San Diego where I live, and also they seem to want to settle down and don’t let me looks be as much of an issue I guess. I am well built and been told I’m very good looking, I’m not skeezy, I’m a gentleman but, it seems like women in San Diego seem to think I’m just a player and it’s hard to convince some women otherwise. Point being when I’ve traveled out of state to certain areas I get pursued by women I would love to actually date only to fly back to Sd and deal with the ever changing indecisive dating scene here. I want to meet someone, and have been looking to move for years. So, if anyone has any suggestions for nice rural areas with a good dating scene please let me know so far I’m open to anything as I’m a nurse and can relaocare anywhere to settle down. Just always been in San Diego and want to leave but don’t want to end up in another crazy city Why don't you move to one of the places bolded above since you've already been there and found good prospects?
BaileyB Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 (edited) So I’ve traveled and also tend to get pursued by women who are either foreign or from east coast/ Texas/ Nebraska. Etc. Then women tend to be better looking than the girls who pursue a relationship in San Diego where I live, and also they seem to want to settle down and don’t let me looks be as much of an issue I guess. I am well built and been told I’m very good looking, I’m not skeezy, I’m a gentleman but, it seems like women in San Diego seem to think I’m just a player and it’s hard to convince some women otherwise. Point being when I’ve traveled out of state to certain areas I get pursued by women I would love to actually date only to fly back to Sd and deal with the ever changing indecisive dating scene here. I want to meet someone, and have been looking to move for years. So, if anyone has any suggestions for nice rural areas with a good dating scene please let me know so far I’m open to anything as I’m a nurse and can relaocare anywhere to settle down. Just always been in San Diego and want to leave but don’t want to end up in another crazy city I have a feeling, given your past history of unhealthy relationships, that you will find "the crazies" anywhere you go... I find it amusing that you think this has anything to do with geography. It doesn't matter where you live, your tendency to attract unstable women and your inability to establish healthy boundaries in the relationship starts and ends with you. It will follow you wherever you go... Have you left your pregnant girlfriend? Because if I may, I really think you need to be single for a while... Edited November 24, 2017 by BaileyB 3
kendahke Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 No matter where you go, there you are. Who you are attracts who you attract. There's a resonance going on in you that atunes itself to who you attract. Being by yourself to correct what it is in you that is the tocsin to these sorts of women should be your overarching aim, not figuring out where to move, thinking you're going to attract someone better.
Kamille Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 What does "being down to Earth" mean to you? "Not crazy" is not the same as "down to Earth". Spell it out as positive qualities so you can start paying attention to those qualities when you date people. I took a quick glance at your post history. What's happening with your (ex?) girlfriend's pregnancy? Is that going to play a part in your decision to relocate or not? 3
DKT3 Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 What does "being down to Earth" mean to you? "Not crazy" is not the same as "down to Earth". Spell it out as positive qualities so you can start paying attention to those qualities when you date people. I took a quick glance at your post history. What's happening with your (ex?) girlfriend's pregnancy? Is that going to play a part in your decision to relocate or not? This Cuz crazy comes in down to earth. I don't think it's the place, I think it's the women you are attracted too that is the problem. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 I agree with others. I believe your 'down to earth' is nothing more than a yearning for a reprieve from drama and complexity. Some people define 'down to earth' as simplicity, moderated sophistication and assertiveness...is that what you want? Someone who is so much like you or thinks like you or perhaps, simply acquiesces to your needs/desires that it's easy? I hope not. People are certainly different in different regions, but it sounds like avoiding the dramatic is THE fundamental objective and that is true for everyone who wants a healthy relationship.
smackie9 Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 Your picker is off. You need to work on learning how to read people better. Me, I can smell a bad apple from a mile away. Getting a good sense of people's vibe goes a long way in dating. 1
Fair Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 I doubt you're going to find a more saturated area of either one type of person or another, anywhere. No doubt you're just finding what you expect to find in whichever new location you find yourself in. I live in a very rural place. Trust me, people here are no better or worse than in a very large city. There's just less of them. 4
ShyLove Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 I live in a very rural place. Trust me, people here are no better or worse than in a very large city. There's just less of them. Having living in both a small town and big city I agree with this. Also, according to others, you seem to have some rather dramatic circumstances in your life. "Down to Earth", sophisticated women who are easy going do not want a guy with a bunch of drama in their lives. Those women in other cities may seem like they are different but that is because you weren't around long enough to get to know them or for them to get to know you. Good luck!!
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