Move on? or is it too early?

[CasualDude10]

So this girl and I have been talking for over a week and went on two dates.

 

The first date, we went to two places. We really got along well and she did so much talking that I barely did anything. She even gave the waitress her card at the last second and paid for the bill. After, we went back and watched some TV and listened to some music and we ended up hooking up (no sex though, everything else because she was on her period) and she kept cuddling on to me and everything. We she left, she kept kissing me, and did not want to leave.

 

The second date was Tuesday and I took her out to dinner. She tried paying again but I did not let her this time. After, we went to watch a movie at the cinema and then went back to my house and hooked up. This time we went all the way. After, she said how good it was. She also, again, did not want to leave.

 

After both dates, she would text me that night and the next day thanking me and telling me how much fun she had.

 

Well, Wednesday night came around and we were texting and she just didn't respond, which did not really bother me. Usually she'll text me back the next day or in a couple hours and apologize. Today I did not hear a single word from her when usually I would have by now. I texted her a few hours ago saying "Happy Thanksgiving, do you know who ... is? She added me on FaceBook, is that your cousin?" She left it on read.

 

So here is what I am thinking:

1. She is testing me

2. She was just looking to hook-up (even though she showed emotions)

3. She lost interest in all

 

I do not plan on texting her anymore. I might call her in a few days to set a date. Then again, I do not know. She didn't respond to my last two messages. When she was leaving, I told her that I do not know when the next day I am free, but Id figure it out and will set something up. She said she was down.

 

So do you guys think I should move on? What do you think is going on? We seemed to have a good connection and she would even say "we are the same person just one of us is male, other female".

[Scarlett.O'hara]

Just to clarify, were you already Facebook friends with the girl you are dating or was this the first time you have seen her (or cousin) on social media?

 

If you accepted the friends request from her "cousin" you can be certain she is doing it so she can find out more about you, or clarify something, possibly your relationship status??

 

The fact she has gone silent is quite telling. I wouldn't bother sending her any other messages until she makes the effort to respond to you.

[CasualDude10]

Just to clarify, were you already Facebook friends with the girl you are dating or was this the first time you have seen her (or cousin) on social media?

 

If you accepted the friends request from her "cousin" you can be certain she is doing it so she can find out more about you, or clarify something, possibly your relationship status??

 

The fact she has gone silent is quite telling. I wouldn't bother sending her any other messages until she makes the effort to respond to you

 

I never check my FaceBook, but her cousin added me on Sunday, which was before our second date. I did not realize it was her until I logged onto my FaceBook today for the first time since Sunday. So you think I should just forget about her and if she reaches out to me, go from there?

[Scarlett.O'hara]

It sounds like the best way of handling the situation. It preserves your ego and doesn't make you look desperate.

 

Also, if for some reason she is playing games, she will soon realize that it backfired and your silence might mean you met someone else more interesting. So if she wants your attention, she is going to have to grow up and work harder to get it.

 

Maybe she has a genuine reason for not responding? If that is the case you have still left the door open for contact without pushing, so you can decide if you want to see her again or not at that point.

 

It's up to you.

[d0nnivain]

Not reaching out is probably a good plan.

 

Any other time of year I'd say you can start to move on BUT it's Thanksgiving. This time of year people are out of their routine. You have no idea what family drama personal stuff she's going through.

 

Yes, it doesn't take that long to text but again, you just don't know.

 

So I tell people to give their relatively new SO's a break from Wednesday through the following Monday when she gets back into her routine.

 

I'm not super optimistic because was starts too fast like this tends to end if flames.

[CasualDude10]

Not reaching out is probably a good plan.

 

Any other time of year I'd say you can start to move on BUT it's Thanksgiving. This time of year people are out of their routine. You have no idea what family drama personal stuff she's going through.

 

Yes, it doesn't take that long to text but again, you just don't know.

 

So I tell people to give their relatively new SO's a break from Wednesday through the following Monday when she gets back into her routine.

 

I'm not super optimistic because was starts too fast like this tends to end if flames.

 

Yeah that’s what I’m thinkjng.

 

Any other advice would be awesome

[KBob]

Don't text her back, you've done enough, the ball is in her court. Besides, you've only been on two dates so you're not exclusive, keep dating other women. If she comes around, great! If she doesn't, you got laid. Win win.

[kendahke]

 

I never check my FaceBook, but her cousin added me on Sunday.

 

That's creepy a.f. There's no good reason for her cousin to be stepping to you like that without anyone asking you first if you minded. I'd not accept that if I was you and if you did, change that. That's not cool.

 

So you think I should just forget about her and if she reaches out to me, go from there?

 

Yeah. Let this holiday weekend play out and then see how this shakes out next week.

[CasualDude10]

Thanks for all the responses, glad most of us are on the same page

[CasualDude10]

Like others have said, you shouldn't contact her. It doesn't matter what kind of excuses someone comes up with, it only takes a moment to text someone back. If she wanted to respond to you, she would. Continually trying to reach out to someone who doesn't bother to respond just looks sad.

 

You almost can't pay attention to what anyone says when you first start dating. People can say anything, and those words are sometimes no indication of what they are actually thinking and feeling. For all you know, she could be banging some other dude and she likes him better. It happens.

 

Here's the good news. You had a couple fun dates and got laid. That's better than sitting home and watching porn, right? Also, you added two ladies to your Facebook, correct? Her and her cousin? Don't delete either one of them. The more ladies you can keep around on your social media the better. Each one is a possible date/hook up some other night. Remember, just don't press things.

 

Thanks, you made some great points.