madison1 Posted November 23, 2017 Posted November 23, 2017 I've been using online dating sites,and have been having issues with a lot of guys trying to hook up. i just don't feel comfortable, but i do believe that one day ill swipe on someone looking for the same things i am. (long term dating to see where it goes) Now that I've been on MANY dates i feel like i finally found someone that i connect with we've been on 2 dates within 5 days, and agreed to go on another. Our last date was on monday in the city on a ferris wheel, he was SUCH A GENTLEMAN on both dates. open the doors, paid when i i tried too, and walked me to car door and opened that one. and we seem to value family, and picked on each other joking around just right. at the end of the second date he told me he had a good time, and thanks for HANGING OUT WITH HIM. While on the date he told me i reminded him of his sister bubbly personality, and smart ... didn't know how to take that? he has yet to touch me.. kiss or anything the closest i think would be when he offered me his jacket and was about to take it off and i rejected it cause i already had one... but i feel like if he wanted to he could have on the ferris wheel cause he didn't sit next to me in it, he went on the other side. so questions are : 1.) i thought they were dates but he texts me "hanging out"? were they not dates if he paid and asked me out? 2.) When will he really contact me for a third date? 3.) when do people kiss on dates? 4.)I reminded him of his sister bubbly personality, and smart ... didn't know how to take that?? is he not attracted to me? 5.) Do you texts daily in-between date with someone, or just plan to meet up?
Zippy2000 Posted November 23, 2017 Posted November 23, 2017 First of all dont over analyse anything he does. Just take things slow. Dont invest too soon as guys sometimes act like gentlemen and then let their guard down later. Why all the emphasis on kissing?
Purepony Posted November 23, 2017 Posted November 23, 2017 Is it possible you are comparing this date to the other dates where the guys show more physical action because they want to hook up ? My vote would be to give it more time then by the 5th date ask how he feels about you or if he might be interested in taking things further 1
mortensorchid Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 Question for you: Which app did you meet him on? Tinder? Bumble? Or something else? Because advice will come better if we know which app it is. Advice? Some things are very simple based on what he's doing or what the interaction was or was not. 1
Author madison1 Posted November 24, 2017 Author Posted November 24, 2017 Thats very true actually, but even then i don't want to hook up and i want to kiss him. ill just wait thank you!
act00 Posted November 24, 2017 Posted November 24, 2017 I'm not sure what to think. I think I wouldn't take much exception to using the terms "hanging out" if there was some affection. Touching, holding my hand, a hug, even if there was no kiss at the end of the first date. If there was some affection, "hanging out" wouldn't seem so "friend" or "buddy-ish." If he likes his sister, and they get along, I would think that would be a complement, meaning he's comfortable and enjoys you. But with no affection, you slip back to the question of buddy and friend. I would hope to have some more affection and a kiss by date number two. He could just be being very careful to be a gentleman and not come across as wanting to hook up, so I think you just need to give it some time. Try not to overthink it. Maybe you need to push a little affection at him, so he knows he's safe to do the same. Enjoy your time together. Don't be afraid to reach out and text him as well. If no response after two tries, then drop the rope, but us girls can extend ourselves a little here as well, so he knows we're interested. Enjoy for now. He sounds pretty great, except for the no affection part. That would be really hard for me.
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