I’m pregnant he went ghost and hates me

[Treato]

me and my ex broke up. A week later I told his friend I may be pregnant because he ignored my call. He then called upset name calling and telling me everything he hated about me. I didn’t want to take the abuse so I told him I wasn’t. I later took 4 test and they were positive I immediately scheduled a appointment for a abortion. My cousin contacted him and let him know what was going on because I no longer wanted contact and wanted to handle the situation alonevand she felt that wasn’t fear. He later called me and told me I was a liar and less of a woman and would never talk to me again. And that I was trying to get him back after a break up witch is a lie I’m over I. T. I deleted social media and disappeared because I wanted peace. I also wanted to make sure if this is what I really wanted. A week later he blew my phone up with calls from him and his friends I asked for It to stop he’s 29 grow up. His friends told me he’s going threw a lot his grandmom was dying and his household situation was bad. I reassured them I just want to be left alone I would never trap no one. My thing is if I do decide to keep It is It rude to ask him to sign over his rights I haven’t spoken to him in 2 weeks. And if I do get the procedure should I send him the proof since he claimed I lied although I asked him to join me at the doctors and I recorded ever pregnancy test but he won’t face me. I’m so confused I don’t know what to do

[d0nnivain]

I am so sorry he is not being mature about this. No it's not rude for you to ask him to sign away his parental rights. Something like that needs to be handled through lawyers though. Go get one. Have that lawyer send your EX certified mail.

 

Best wishes whatever you decide.

[Chi townD]

You don't have to prove anything to him. Just do what you have to do (not a big supporter of abortion, but that's not my place or situation) and move on with your life.

 

A lot of times, our Ex's have to demonize us in their heads to ease their guilt and justify the break up to themselves in their head. Easier to break up with someone if they're mad at you.

[stillafool]

me and my ex broke up. A week later I told his friend I may be pregnant because he ignored my call. He then called upset name calling and telling me everything he hated about me. I didn’t want to take the abuse so I told him I wasn’t. I later took 4 test and they were positive I immediately scheduled a appointment for a abortion. My cousin contacted him and let him know what was going on because I no longer wanted contact and wanted to handle the situation alonevand she felt that wasn’t fear. He later called me and told me I was a liar and less of a woman and would never talk to me again. And that I was trying to get him back after a break up witch is a lie I’m over I. T. I deleted social media and disappeared because I wanted peace. I also wanted to make sure if this is what I really wanted. A week later he blew my phone up with calls from him and his friends I asked for It to stop he’s 29 grow up. His friends told me he’s going threw a lot his grandmom was dying and his household situation was bad. I reassured them I just want to be left alone I would never trap no one. My thing is if I do decide to keep It is It rude to ask him to sign over his rights I haven’t spoken to him in 2 weeks. And if I do get the procedure should I send him the proof since he claimed I lied although I asked him to join me at the doctors and I recorded ever pregnancy test but he won’t face me. I’m so confused I don’t know what to do

 

You can ask him to sign over the rights to the baby if that is what you want. There is no need to send him proof of your procedure. Why would you? It's his problem if he thinks you are lying. Please stop with the silly games like calling him to say you are pregnant just to get a response from him. These type of games always blow up in your face and makes the other party think you've got mental issues.

[chaoticjoy3]

I think that it is important that you really thing this over before making any rash decisions. I aborted my first baby without a lot of thought, I was scared. It was a choice I have had to live with, and learn to forgive myself for. Your questions are very valid, can you have him sign his rights over? I think like the other poster said, you need to get an attorney involved but if he wants nothing to do with the baby or your relationship this may be the way to go. Maybe for now you could just not worry about that, let things settle down, don't be in contact with him. If you have to, change your number so you can have some down time to think about things. There are so many resources available to help you through this time, the pregnancy, and after. http://bit.ly/2xvte3v Please looking into local programs for support, and your family and close friends. Once you have that baby I promise you will be in love. Blessings to you!

[sandylee1]

Have you decided to have the baby?

 

I personally wouldn't contact him again. If you have the baby he'll find out anyway.

[BarbedFenceRider]

Op, maybe a little back history would help me understand what exactly transpired here. And how this came to be..What is your upbringing like, and how are your family connections right now?