Gemlouise Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 I have been talking to this guy for a year now and been seeing him for 6 months on Tuesday we had an argument about the girlfriend he lives with so I put a knife to my throat the next morning I woke up he wasn't next to me as he was staying with me for a few weeks so I called he said he's going home to finish with her n he promised he would be back I suffer mental health as it is like panic attacks depression and anxiety but he didn't come back we used to talk most of the time and see me alot but now he's lieing as I know he hasn't finished with her he said he's only there cus he don't want to loose his daughter n also someone hacked his Facebook n I got sent his inbox messages him telling his gf he lives with he loves her even rude messages he told me he's not had sex with her since November last year he said he only put them messages to keep her sweet so she doesn't ask questions because as far as everyone knew he was in a mental health hospital when he was here with me also today he said he was going to work even called at 5 to say that's where he is going at 6 he called to say he was at work so I actually believed him abit later I needed him but phone went to voicemail he said it was his signal so I called his work up they said he's not in until next Monday as he's still Ill in hospital then a little later notice I had a Facebook message from him after his call to work him saying he's dropped his phone and won't work now so he's just jumped on his managers computer to tell me and his phone is still turned off he's meant to be coming tomorrow to talk about everything n I'm gunna confront him then y he's lied I've just bought him arsenal tickets and the new football kit there's no wonder I feel suicidal because of how I get treated. I lost everything for him I'm gunna put his messages between us in comments they might seem nice but I know he's lied before I've also said if he hurts me I'm gunna Hurt him as this has destroyed me
d0nnivain Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 Oh dear. Let's forget about him for a minute. What are you doing about your own mental heath? You have to address your depression & anxiety. Those things -- not anything this man did or didn't do to you -- caused you to put a knife to your throat. You can't make somebody stay with you by threatening suicide. That's emotional blackmail & it usually backfires. This relationship is every unhealthy for you. You have take up with an unavailable man who repeatedly lies to you. It's been a year, yet he still officially lives with this other woman, the mother of his child. He hasn't taken any affirmative steps to disentangle himself from her, nor do I believe he ever will. He has the best of both worlds -- her & you on the side. That is no good for you. He told you he hasn't been with her for a year. That is most likely a lie. You saw lovey-dovey messages he sent to her yet he lies & tells you that is "just to keep her sweet." Guess what, he tells you garbage like that to keep you sweet. You need to dump his lying butt & concentrate on your own well being. Remember not only is he lying to you & his baby mamma, he's also lying to his employer telling them he's in the hospital when he is really with you. Eventually the job is going to want proof. When he can't supply it, he will be fired. Do you really want to be with an unemployed liar who played you & thinks you are a fool? You deserve better but you won't get better as long as you put up with this BS.
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