mortensorchid Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 I'm sorry this happened to you. He sounds like he's playing the field a lot behind your back. I for one am a bit ... Wary of guys who have this Asian woman fetish myself. There are deeper things at work rather than liking the "otherness" of exotic women.
kendahke Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 The weird thing is that he wont stop texting me. He texts you because you give him access. If he was on block, he wouldn't be texting you, so really, the question is: what kind of charge are you getting out of staying in touch with him? What kind of manipulation game are you playing by allowing him to be able to contact you? How much more does he need to discount you for you to get that you need to move on?
Author Lattes4Days Posted November 26, 2017 Author Posted November 26, 2017 (edited) I did block him. Now he keeps trying to add me over and over again on instagram too. Kind of psychotic behavior. It hurts knowing he was falling for both of us at the same time. Few days ago during our conversation I told him how I couldn't believe he dropped me off on Thursday and then slept with her on Saturday, I told him that was so cold blooded. He would text me good morning every day without fail and text me all day long. Apparently he did the same with her. Its disgusting. I even spent Mon-Thurs at his house that week, and while I waited for him to come home from work, he was texting her making plans to see her that weekend. On that Saturday, he texted me while he was sitting right next to her, telling me that he was drinking wine by himself and that he was so exhausted. He lied to my face over and over again when I would bring up other women I was concerned about like his female roommate or all those new instagram adds...blatantly lied to my face about how he was being faithful. Looking back on the entire relationship he was a total jerk who disrespected me numerous times. At least now I won't have to go on those god awful 3 day painful hikes with him anymore, or listen to him talk about how he wants me to be buff and gain muscle because he likes muscular women. He even had the nerve to say "I don't think you'll take me back, but even if you did, I can't be 100% in relationship right now." I said "I want nothing to do with you lol" That Thursday night he insulted me by saying he didn't know if this was going to work because I was "expensive to date". I was like what?? we only went out to eat once every time that I saw him. He made lots of money in his job, but was soooo cheap! He would use money to make himself feel superior. One time we went out to a restaurant and we had a good waitress but he didnt think she was good, so he said "I'm going to give her a small tip." and held up 3 fingers. What an a-hole. We only ever did things he wanted to do, because he couldn't bother going anywhere I wanted to go. He also said he only wanted sex once or twice a week, now I know why! He was getting it somewhere else! He only liked 2 positions during sex, we couldn't do anything else. Sooo many comments that he made throughout the relationship make SO much more sense now. He would call me like 8 times if I didn't answer his text fast enough, he was constantly freaking out that I was out with some other guy. I even mentioned this to him during our last conversation and he was like "Yeah you know why I kept freaking out?" I said "Because cheaters are always paranoid?" and he said "No, because I was feeling vulnerable. I got really attached to you." LOL During our last conversation I said, "Karma's a b****" and he said "Maybe this is your karma." LOL yeah this guy was a real winner. I stayed because I really wanted to make this relationship work at this point in my life and because he was so handsome to me that clouded my judgment I guess. He wanted to retire in the Philippines and asked me if I wanted to go with him, I was like wtf? He was so weird. So many hang ups. Edited November 26, 2017 by Lattes4Days
Sweetfish Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 I did block him. Now he keeps trying to add me over and over again on instagram too. Kind of psychotic behavior. It hurts knowing he was falling for both of us at the same time. Few days ago during our conversation I told him how I couldn't believe he dropped me off on Thursday and then slept with her on Saturday, I told him that was so cold blooded. He would text me good morning every day without fail and text me all day long. Apparently he did the same with her. Its disgusting. I even spent Mon-Thurs at his house that week, and while I waited for him to come home from work, he was texting her making plans to see her that weekend. On that Saturday, he texted me while he was sitting right next to her, telling me that he was drinking wine by himself and that he was so exhausted. He lied to my face over and over again when I would bring up other women I was concerned about like his female roommate or all those new instagram adds...blatantly lied to my face about how he was being faithful. Looking back on the entire relationship he was a total jerk who disrespected me numerous times. At least now I won't have to go on those god awful 3 day painful hikes with him anymore, or listen to him talk about how he wants me to be buff and gain muscle because he likes muscular women. He even had the nerve to say "I don't think you'll take me back, but even if you did, I can't be 100% in relationship right now." I said "I want nothing to do with you lol" That Thursday night he insulted me by saying he didn't know if this was going to work because I was "expensive to date". I was like what?? we only went out to eat once every time that I saw him. He made lots of money in his job, but was soooo cheap! He would use money to make himself feel superior. One time we went out to a restaurant and we had a good waitress but he didnt think she was good, so he said "I'm going to give her a small tip." and held up 3 fingers. What an a-hole. We only ever did things he wanted to do, because he couldn't bother going anywhere I wanted to go. He also said he only wanted sex once or twice a week, now I know why! He was getting it somewhere else! He only liked 2 positions during sex, we couldn't do anything else. Sooo many comments that he made throughout the relationship make SO much more sense now. He would call me like 8 times if I didn't answer his text fast enough, he was constantly freaking out that I was out with some other guy. I even mentioned this to him during our last conversation and he was like "Yeah you know why I kept freaking out?" I said "Because cheaters are always paranoid?" and he said "No, because I was feeling vulnerable. I got really attached to you." LOL During our last conversation I said, "Karma's a b****" and he said "Maybe this is your karma." LOL yeah this guy was a real winner. I stayed because I really wanted to make this relationship work at this point in my life and because he was so handsome to me that clouded my judgment I guess. He wanted to retire in the Philippines and asked me if I wanted to go with him, I was like wtf? He was so weird. So many hang ups. I think he was always weird... your just not seeing thru your rose covered lenses anymore. Very possible he is a narcissist. Best think you can do is cut him 100%
phineas Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 What a douche. Now you need to block him in every way possible. Disappear from his life. And stop cyber stalking him. /thread. 10 characters
kendahke Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 I did block him. Now he keeps trying to add me over and over again on instagram too. Instagram has blocking features. I know because I use them. So can you, if you'd choose to do that instead of investing in his attempts to keep in contact with you. I stayed because he was so handsome to me that clouded my judgment . Next time, don't be so hung up on how you two look as a couple and concentrate more on how the man esteems you and treats you. He never did have a high opinion of you and that is clear through how you've let him treat with you. You accepted a lot of offensive behavior in exchange for those fleeting looks. 1
stillafool Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 Good you have blocked him because he treats you awful. Now stop snooping on his social media and start dating others.
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