ericlongely Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 What kinda person breaks up, moves out, and trashes your place doing so?
basil67 Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 What kinda person breaks up, moves out, and trashes your place doing so? Someone who really hates you. Or who has been incredibly hurt by you. And who doesn't manage their anger well. 3
carhill Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 What kinda person breaks up, moves out, and trashes your place doing so? Uninhibited?
Author ericlongely Posted November 21, 2017 Author Posted November 21, 2017 Uninhibited? What do you mean?
chinadiary Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 Either you've done something really bad or he's crazy.
carhill Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 What do you mean? Normal rules, morals and standards don't apply to them. Whatever they feel like doing, there ya go. Usually they're remarkably calm after. I call it a violence orgasm. Killers are similar. The energy is expended and they are satiated. Ain't life grand?
Author ericlongely Posted November 22, 2017 Author Posted November 22, 2017 Nearly three years old relationship. Live together for two. Never has she ever demonstrated violence of any sort. In fact, I'd go as far as she somewhat mild mannered. She moved out stating she didn't didn't want the responsibility of two young kids anymore. They are mine. Hers are all grown up so I think shes saying she just wanted to be free spirited and somewhat selfish without it affecting me of my kids. I guess that's a fair and honest. More than what you usually get anyway. I guess the thing that grinds my gears is the mess left behind. Nothing was broken or torn up just a mess everywhere. I'm sad and heart broken cause it the best relationship I've ever had.
StephenV Posted November 22, 2017 Posted November 22, 2017 It feels like there's a large part of this story missing. 2
Author ericlongely Posted November 22, 2017 Author Posted November 22, 2017 That's where I'm at. But is the truth ever known in a break up though? That's always the part I struggle with the most.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 22, 2017 Posted November 22, 2017 I'm sad and heart broken cause it the best relationship I've ever had. She was really pissed AT YOU and/or the situation. For you to declare this to have been the best relationship you've ever had seems to only raise more questions, imho. We don't know the whole story, but you may have been in denial and/or there is MUCH more to the break-up than we know.
Author ericlongely Posted November 22, 2017 Author Posted November 22, 2017 I'm not good at picking partners I guess. probably has something to do with my self worth/self esteem and the lack of a quality dating pool. Still that aside, It was the best I've had. We have many shared interests, our families combine very well, mutual physical attraction, We had short term and long term goals and even a overall moral compass. I think she is a little upset at her self. I'm the only one that's treated her right in her past as well. I'm not sure she really wanted to leave per say but I think perhaps she ran from a situation. We had differences too you know. Our parenting styles differed, she's very sensitive and I'm not as much. There were some other things too but overall I've never met another person I had SO many things in common with. I don't know if she ran scared, self destructed, or just didn't feel worthy enough or if something else went wrong. I'll probably never know for sure. Were trying to be cool but when we do talk over the phone or text I hear a bit of anger. I don't know if it's directed to me, elsewhere and I'm in the crossfire, or just the brunt of the situation. All I really know is I miss her and this one stings pretty bad.
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