Going on a Date

[LoverOfDance]

So I met this guy yesterday online (online dating). He's super enthusiastic about me. We chatted for a few hours. He sent A LOT of emojis and responded very quickly - I'm not used to this. He is 33 and I'm 26. I'm trying to date guys who are a little older because a lot of guys in their 20s seem to want to sleep around. I'm hoping the older men are a bit more mature and ready for something more.

 

He says he's going to kiss me during our date if he really likes me. I should add that he is French. I told him to slow down and that there's no need to rush things. He laughed and said he was only kidding.

 

I'm a little weary of course and also a little excited to be meeting someone. What do you guys think of him so far?

[PegNosePete]

I would say that his "only kidding" comment is not true.

 

Just meet him and see what you think. No point over-thinking it before hand.

[d0nnivain]

I think you two are not on the same page about the speed of relationships. He expects that dates have a physical aspect & for him that includes kissing on the 1st date. That idea is too fast for you. Your point is valid but it's not compatible with his.

 

 

I actually don't think you should go on this date because you don't have the skills to deflect his advances & they will come.

 

 

You need to date somebody who is willing to go at your very slow pace.

[LoverOfDance]

Thanks for the responses guys.

 

So I went on the date. It was good. He was very enthusiastic and says he wants to see me again. He seems nice but the problem is that I am not physically attracted to him.

 

I've actually considered dating him just because he seems to like me so much. Definitely something I need to think about. What do you guys think?

[Erik30]

I doubt it's going to work if the only reason you might continue dating him is because he likes you...

 

Do yourself and him a favor, and find a guy you actually are attracted to. It was just one date, so it's not a big deal

[d0nnivain]

Thanks for the responses guys.

 

So I went on the date. It was good. He was very enthusiastic and says he wants to see me again. He seems nice but the problem is that I am not physically attracted to him.

 

I've actually considered dating him just because he seems to like me so much. Definitely something I need to think about. What do you guys think?

 

If you are not physically attracted to him now, I doubt those feelings will grow. You either think he's hot or he's not. If you aren't feeling it, don't waste the guy's time.

[kassy]

Don't waste your or his time dating him if you aren't attracted to him! Find someone you are attracted to!

[LoverOfDance]

I texted him and told him it would be best not to take things further. I didn't tell him I wasn't attracted to him though - I didn't think it was necessary. I let him down as easily as I could. It's back to the search again. I pray I find someone just as enthusiastic and excited about me as he was and I pray that I will feel the same. Thanks again guys.

[act00]

My experience with foreign men is that they are less reserved and can be highly affectionate really fast. I had one plant a kiss on me when we met outside the restaurant going in. I've had some ask me or say like your said, about kissing, and I think they're just trying to put out the feelers as possibly American women aren't used to such high affection or are more reserved and they're trying to gauge what's okay??? I really don't know, but it doesn't bother me in the least. I totally want the kissing and affection. Go and have fun and I hope you do get a kiss!

[dispatch3d]

fwiw guys usually go in for the kiss because they want to know if you're interested or just trying to befriend them (yuck if I'm interested in the girl). The latter is not very fun for the guy so we try to find out early sometimes.