ljn1650 Posted November 19, 2017 Posted November 19, 2017 Around January this year, and external company came to consult with mine on a project. This meant consultants in the office a few days a week. I never directly worked with this one man, but we would often say shy hellos, glance over etc whenever we passed. This went on for around 8 months. `that was as far as it went, never had a conversation. However, I was very attracted to him, but convinced myself I imagined any vibe and he was being polite. I always got the impression he was quite shy. We were recently on a night out with other work people and were drunk, and he acknowledged our little interactions, and said he knew me in the office as the girl with the nice eyes/pretty. Said he never spoke to me because he would have looked obnoxious etc as we had never even worked together so why would he. He encouraged me to stay out, we chatted on and off during the night but nothing very meaningful. At the end of the night, he asked me to come say goodbye properly, we hugged and he said lets keep in touch, when i said how? and reeled off facebook, linkedin, tinder etc in a jokey flippant way and we said our goodbyes. He is now no longer based with our company and I won't see him again, and lives 2 hours away on a train. If he wanted to, he could easily find my work email and contact me - he hasn't. Should I let this one go? I would like to email him, but don't have the courage. My reservations - I have no idea if he has a girlfriend, and he seems to be very popular with the ladies. I also don't really know him!
smackie9 Posted November 19, 2017 Posted November 19, 2017 If he was really into you he would be all over your invitation to keep in contact and ask you out. Let this one go. 1
kendahke Posted November 19, 2017 Posted November 19, 2017 (edited) Does he, in fact, know your work email address, or are you speculating that he does? Does he know your last name? He's already told you how to contact him, so send him an email with your contact information and if he has true interest, he will contact you. If that is a step too far for you, then don't and let this one go. Edited November 19, 2017 by kendahke 1
Author ljn1650 Posted November 21, 2017 Author Posted November 21, 2017 he was the one who said keep in touch If he was really into you he would be all over your invitation to keep in contact and ask you out. Let this one go.
d0nnivain Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 Since he mentioned FB, send him a friend request. Check out his page to see if there is evidence of a GF. If there is not, invent a reason to be in a town closer to him (say going holiday shopping, perhaps). Message him. Say you are going to be at XYZ place near him & would he like to meet for coffee.
Author ljn1650 Posted November 21, 2017 Author Posted November 21, 2017 i don't have facebook - the only way i can contact him is his work email Since he mentioned FB, send him a friend request. Check out his page to see if there is evidence of a GF. If there is not, invent a reason to be in a town closer to him (say going holiday shopping, perhaps). Message him. Say you are going to be at XYZ place near him & would he like to meet for coffee.
d0nnivain Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 i don't have facebook - the only way i can contact him is his work email Make a profile. It's not that hard. If you really don't want to use social media to check his relationship status, send the message about being in his location though his work e-mail.
stillafool Posted November 21, 2017 Posted November 21, 2017 My reservations - I have no idea if he has a girlfriend, and he seems to be very popular with the ladies. I also don't really know him! If this is true he has a gf - or two.
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