GetThroughIt Posted November 18, 2017 Posted November 18, 2017 Well, I’ve been knowing this girl for at least 5 years now. We’ve dated for 3 years, and she just left me out of nowhere. She’s 17, and I’m 18 (both in high school). I don’t understand why did she break up with me. We were best friends, she would tell me anything, and vice versa. She was always very clingy, and was the type of girl to scream “I love you” at me from all the way on the other side of the hallway. She treated me like I was her king, would have done anything for me. She was the most beautiful and most sweetest girl I’ve ever met. Recently she has changed, she broke up with me for no reason at all. I noticed the change in her after she started hanging around a specific person. I’ve tried to over and over again to talk to her, and she doesn’t care at all. I’ve begged her, and begged her for us to get back together,and ignores me and completely blocked me. On the first week that we broke up I found out she was talking to a star football player for my school, it hurt me so bad that I didn’t even go to school for a week. It’s like she traded me for him?? Anyways, I’ve heard she was going over his house everyday (she’s been lying to her parents) and seeing him. They even go out on dates! Today they even skipped school together (which is not like her). What I don’t understand is how did she get over me so quickly?? She didn’t even grieve or have any sort of heartbreak. She was the type of person that would cry if we didn’t talk for a day or if we didn’t see each other. I really feel like she is getting influenced by her “friend” because she was never like this until she came in the picture. My birthday was a couple of weeks and ago, and she would usually would have gone all out for my birthday, but I didn’t get anything. However, the other boys birthday was about a week ago, and she was over his house and they went on a date. I’ve been NC for about 2 and a half weeks. I still love her because I can see the real her even though she broke my heart to shreds. I really need help understanding how did she change on me so quickly and betray me. A week before we broke up she started crying out of nowhere because she wanted me to promise her that I would never leave her, and that I was the best thing that every happened to her. Help please.
Author GetThroughIt Posted November 18, 2017 Author Posted November 18, 2017 Bump, anyone??? Really having a hard time I can't even sleep.
alterest Posted November 18, 2017 Posted November 18, 2017 You and her are pretty young, bro. I do see people that work since their school times, but it's not very common. She probably want to see what she can find out there and see what the world have for her. It's not like she is a bad person or anything else, she is just a human. And, look, when you discover someone really interesting you put your attention into that person, but when you grow uo you understand that you have much more then just a ephemeral interest. When I was with my last gf (now ex) I met some very interesting girls, but I know what I want and that all human have their issues and so on, and I know what I want from each one. I could change my gf (now ex) for anyone of those girls but what I'm win with that? I wanted a life with her, kids, share a house, share my life with her, so those news are nothing to me. But I didn't have this perspective when I was 18. I'm really sorry for you, man. But sometimes our only options is to back off and let the time do the job for us. She may back to you, but you may also don't be with her ever again... That idea hurt a lot, I know... But life is it. Take sometime for yourself, try to do the best of you. Go full NC right now and think as perspective. If she never come back you already moved on, if she come back you see if you want her again or not. But of you stay in saddnes she will not want you back and you going to be all alone and in a eternal hurt moment. Don't do that to you. If you need to suffer, so suffer. If you need to cry, so cry. If you want to talk to her, talk. But if you see that is pointless some thing, just stop. My current ex said that she wants sometime for herself and we may be back in future, that she leave the door open for us cause she really care with me, but I tried to talk to her after BU and guess what? She don't want to talk. She wasn't rude, but she was a little cold and for what I know her she doesn't want to talk with me. I'm feel lost right now, but what can I do? I can do nothing about it, I can't change her mind, I can't force some relationship with her. Probably I'm going to do the same mistake in a while, but I already know where it leads. So, take easy with you and try to improve yourself at your best.
Author GetThroughIt Posted November 18, 2017 Author Posted November 18, 2017 You and her are pretty young, bro. I do see people that work since their school times, but it's not very common. She probably want to see what she can find out there and see what the world have for her. It's not like she is a bad person or anything else, she is just a human. And, look, when you discover someone really interesting you put your attention into that person, but when you grow uo you understand that you have much more then just a ephemeral interest. When I was with my last gf (now ex) I met some very interesting girls, but I know what I want and that all human have their issues and so on, and I know what I want from each one. I could change my gf (now ex) for anyone of those girls but what I'm win with that? I wanted a life with her, kids, share a house, share my life with her, so those news are nothing to me. But I didn't have this perspective when I was 18. I'm really sorry for you, man. But sometimes our only options is to back off and let the time do the job for us. She may back to you, but you may also don't be with her ever again... That idea hurt a lot, I know... But life is it. Take sometime for yourself, try to do the best of you. Go full NC right now and think as perspective. If she never come back you already moved on, if she come back you see if you want her again or not. But of you stay in saddnes she will not want you back and you going to be all alone and in a eternal hurt moment. Don't do that to you. If you need to suffer, so suffer. If you need to cry, so cry. If you want to talk to her, talk. But if you see that is pointless some thing, just stop. My current ex said that she wants sometime for herself and we may be back in future, that she leave the door open for us cause she really care with me, but I tried to talk to her after BU and guess what? She don't want to talk. She wasn't rude, but she was a little cold and for what I know her she doesn't want to talk with me. I'm feel lost right now, but what can I do? I can do nothing about it, I can't change her mind, I can't force some relationship with her. Probably I'm going to do the same mistake in a while, but I already know where it leads. So, take easy with you and try to improve yourself at your best.What really hurts me is that we practally watch one another grow up. I talked to this girl everyday for 5 years, and now I’m not talking to her at all. And she doesn’t even care what so ever, which really surprises me; because I know the type of girl she is. Thank you so much for the kind words I really appreciate it. <3
alterest Posted November 18, 2017 Posted November 18, 2017 What really hurts me is that we practally watch one another grow up. I talked to this girl everyday for 5 years, and now I’m not talking to her at all. And she doesn’t even care what so ever, which really surprises me; because I know the type of girl she is. Thank you so much for the kind words I really appreciate it. <3 Well... Neither you and I can tell what she passing right now and what is her perspective abou life and about you. The only thing you know is: She doesn't want to be with you right now. Forget about what you know about her, it lead you to nowhere. You can't do anything about her right now, only about you. Leave her alone and focus on yourself and in your improvement. If she want you in the future she will reach you, if she doesn't then you won't care about it. But don't put yourself in a place where suffers is the only thing, I've been there and it's not worth it.
Author GetThroughIt Posted November 19, 2017 Author Posted November 19, 2017 Well... Neither you and I can tell what she passing right now and what is her perspective abou life and about you. The only thing you know is: She doesn't want to be with you right now. Forget about what you know about her, it lead you to nowhere. You can't do anything about her right now, only about you. Leave her alone and focus on yourself and in your improvement. If she want you in the future she will reach you, if she doesn't then you won't care about it. But don't put yourself in a place where suffers is the only thing, I've been there and it's not worth it. Now I feel really bad, because I just broke NC because she texted me just to start an argument and I texted back and we argued. Now I feel like there isn’t a chance in the world that we would get back together
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 19, 2017 Posted November 19, 2017 Now I feel really bad, because I just broke NC because she texted me just to start an argument and I texted back and we argued. Now I feel like there isn’t a chance in the world that we would get back together What did she start an argument with you about? When you break up, it's very common to feel like, "how in the world can they just act like I never mattered?" It hurts....it just does. And there isn't really a good answer other than the fact their feelings changed. It doesn't mean they never existed. They just changed. Things change. People change. And sometimes those changes hurt . 1
alterest Posted November 19, 2017 Posted November 19, 2017 Now I feel really bad, because I just broke NC because she texted me just to start an argument and I texted back and we argued. Now I feel like there isn’t a chance in the world that we would get back together Hey, don't blame yourself. Really. NC is for you become stronger, your BU happened not so long, so it's not a big deal to make that mistake. I made it two days ago, and it's ok. Just think that you got nothing from that and go NC again. And when you think to send something, remember what happened. If she text you, there's no problem in reply. But keep it short and if she try to initiate a arguement, tell her that you don't want to arguement and if she insist let her talk everything that she want but don't play that game. The result is always the same. Don't need to be rude, cold, nothing... Just let it go. I can't tell you if you and her going to be back together neither do you. Even with that you said, cause don't matter what she says right now, you both are splitted. My advice is: Consider that you and her do not going to be back together. It's your best shot. Back to NC and continue to improve yourself.
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