bluemt001 Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 It has been 2 month since my ex boyfriend broke up with me. He said he wasn't happy and wanted to see someone else. He was first boyfriend. He was my best friend but now it is like we are strangers. I tried my best that I could to reconcile with him. I even gave him my last very long pages love letter, text, video, and even hug a few days after the breakup but I guess in the end it didn't change his desicion. He even has a girlfriend now after 2 weeks we broke up. And today I guess I was told that he even posted officially in social media. So to sum up this breakup for me has been rollercoaster of emotions. But to be honest after so much news I heard from friends and co-workers about him after the break up, I officially learned that I need to stop hoping for him coming back. I actually can say to myself that emotionally and mentally I must move on. I need to stop loving him completley. I haven't contacted him at all since then I just unfollowed him in facebook but honestly do you think I should block him and unfriend in social media? People say its a sign of weakness that I should show him in social media that I am doing just fine but I don't know what to think anymore. Tbh, I am not but I dont know what to think anymore. Need advice! please
basil67 Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 It does not matter what he thinks of you unfriending him. All that matters is that you do what YOU need to do for yourself.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 Yes, you should. Think of it this way, back in the days before smart phones and social media, exes didn't hang around each other's homes seeing what they were up to and parading around in front of them, showing them how well they were doing. It's not normal.
Captivating Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 Blue, It takes time and usually several relationships until people find whom they are really compatible with. It is a learning process. Breakups suck ! It is freaking hard to move on... but you need to. NO CONTACT will help you immensely. If you keep looking at his Facebook you might come across contents you wish you haven't seen ... so either do not look at his social media or block him. Start focusing on yourself, face the pain but try to occupy yourself with activities, this always helped me. Give it a try. Meet up with and talk to friends, family. It will take time, just be patient. HUGS !
manfrombelow2 Posted November 18, 2017 Posted November 18, 2017 I think you have EVERY right to do EVERY thing that can help you get over this. so unblocking or unfriending is alright, after all that person no longer cares about you, so why should you?
alterest Posted November 18, 2017 Posted November 18, 2017 If it hurts then just unfollow him. If even that way you keep looking at his profile and so on, then unfriend him (and block if you want to). You need to know that your healing process is more important than what he thinks about that. I know that hurts a lot, but you can do nothing right now. Avoid that pain. And, look, even if he has no one right now you see him happy is more than enough to make you unhappy... I said that for personal experience. I just saw a picture of my ex in a party and it was enough to made me sad and overthinking about it. Don't do it to you...
manfrombelow2 Posted November 18, 2017 Posted November 18, 2017 I second this. Your healing process is much more important than anything else at this point. Goodluck! If it hurts then just unfollow him. If even that way you keep looking at his profile and so on, then unfriend him (and block if you want to). You need to know that your healing process is more important than what he thinks about that. I know that hurts a lot, but you can do nothing right now. Avoid that pain. And, look, even if he has no one right now you see him happy is more than enough to make you unhappy... I said that for personal experience. I just saw a picture of my ex in a party and it was enough to made me sad and overthinking about it. Don't do it to you...
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