Iowa4Life Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 So in early 2014, I rekindled an online friendship with a woman I'd known for 15 years. We'd been in and out of each others lives sporadically, since either one or both of us was married. Inn 2014 she was in a "paper marriage" to get her American working papers (she's Canadian), and we began chatting and telephoning once again. Flash forward a couple years...we had been talking steady and our relationship advanced to romantic feelings, and then saying "I love you" to each other. Her "paper husband" was making the divorce difficult, and I fronted her $3,000 to pay her lawyer to get everything taken care of. I told her to consider it an "investment in our future"...something we BOTH had talked about. So she moves back to Canada. Suddenly, the communication begins being spotty, and out of nowhere and with no explanation, she blocks me on Facebook and her phone. I'm a big boy and I know when I've been had...I always knew finding somebody in her own town and her own age was a possibility, but I'm still hurt that she's cut off the whole friendship. (Plus yeah, I'm out $3,000) I'm trying not to give into the bitterness, but it's hard.
JimmyNYC Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 I'm unclear about something. Did you ever meet her in person?
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 You need a better BS detector. Loaning $$ to a woman who you already know was committing immigration fraud was not your wisest decision. If it was only a "paper marriage" you would expect her H wouldn't be making things difficult; he should have wanted out as much as she did. I'm sorry she did this to you but you probably dodged a bullet. At best this woman has a fluid relationship with the truth
Author Iowa4Life Posted November 17, 2017 Author Posted November 17, 2017 To the first reply, yes, I visited her shortly after we first met. Yes, I should have connected the dots and realized that if she'd play "married" and live off one guy's money, she'd also say what I wanted to hear in order to get money out of me. Lesson learned, but it still doesn't take the sting away.
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 Lesson learned, but it still doesn't take the sting away. True. Although painful, this may be one of those life lessons that sticks with you. Onward & upward. I do hope this doesn't diminish your otherwise generous spirit 1
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