daj424 Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 So I need outside perspective on this. I have known a woman for a couple years and was in a relationship with her but for me it never clicked. She however fell in love with me and had a very hard time past couple months. She says she wants to be friends anyway and occasionally still meet up. She says she understands and can keep her feelings in check but I have my doubts. So she had a few work acquaintances going out for a drink and wanted to invite me. I agreed and ended up with a very attractive young lady sitting next to me. I only got to talk to her a short time but I noticed she was playing with her hair, leaning towards me and seemed interested. Unfortunately the evening was over before I even realized how attracted I was to her. I only know her first name and about the only way I could get in contact with her is through the ex. But I can't stop thinking about her. I haven't felt like this in quite a while. Any women reading this who can relate to being a recent ex and being asked to set up your ex care to comment? I'm thinking it will just hurt her and she will make sure I never see this girl again.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 I've never been in this situation, but I would not react well to being asked to do this if I still had feelings for an ex, and it sounds like this woman does.
HumanMachine Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 Why are you still seeing your ex when you’re aware of her feelings? Cruel.. 1
Fever of love Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 So I need outside perspective on this. I have known a woman for a couple years and was in a relationship with her but for me it never clicked. She however fell in love with me and had a very hard time past couple months. She says she wants to be friends anyway and occasionally still meet up. She says she understands and can keep her feelings in check but I have my doubts. So she had a few work acquaintances going out for a drink and wanted to invite me. I agreed and ended up with a very attractive young lady sitting next to me. I only got to talk to her a short time but I noticed she was playing with her hair, leaning towards me and seemed interested. Unfortunately the evening was over before I even realized how attracted I was to her. I only know her first name and about the only way I could get in contact with her is through the ex. But I can't stop thinking about her. I haven't felt like this in quite a while. Any women reading this who can relate to being a recent ex and being asked to set up your ex care to comment? I'm thinking it will just hurt her and she will make sure I never see this girl again. Man here. I don't think it's right dude. You know it's not right too, otherwise you wouldn't be asking on here. It would be very poor etiquette, this girls nothing to you but an attractive stranger in a bar, and it would be emotionally illiterate of you to dump this on the ex. Besides, the ex would tell her g/f what you had just pulled, and you would immediately look like an ass to her anyway. Lose/lose scenario. 1
NopeNah Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 I'll be the devil on your other shoulder. You could send a small batch of flowers to that girl at work(and yes your ex will hear about it)..On the card: "Great to meet you the other night! If you'd like to grab a drink here's my #." Probably cost you about $50...BUT yes...That is a kinda prick move,BUT it really depends on how things ended with the EX. Do not call the ex for more info..That's just wrong.
HumanMachine Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 I'll be the devil on your other shoulder. You could send a small batch of flowers to that girl at work(and yes your ex will hear about it)..On the card: "Great to meet you the other night! If you'd like to grab a drink here's my #." Probably cost you about $50...BUT yes...That is a kinda prick move,BUT it really depends on how things ended with the EX. Do not call the ex for more info..That's just wrong. Sending flowers to a girl you’ve briefly met.. oh dear 1
NopeNah Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 (edited) Sending flowers to a girl you’ve briefly met.. oh dear Small batch..to me a phone call to her work would be more creepy. I suppose we could go for the ultimate creep factor of waiting outside her workplace,drenched in sweat(from anticipation) and ask her out? But, yeah OP.. do you know any of the other coworkers enough to ask them about new girl? Do not go through the ex. Edit: singing telegram? LOL Edited November 17, 2017 by Praying4Daylight
HumanMachine Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 Small batch..to me a phone call to her work would be more creepy. I suppose we could go for the ultimate creep factor of waiting outside her workplace,drenched in sweat(from anticipation) and ask her out? But, yeah OP.. do you know any of the other coworkers enough to ask them about new girl? Do not go through the ex. Maybe 30 years ago.. today if you can’t contact someone using their first name and place of work then you’re doing something wrong..
NopeNah Posted November 17, 2017 Posted November 17, 2017 Maybe 30 years ago.. today if you can’t contact someone using their first name and place of work then you’re doing something wrong.. i'm sticking by the singing telegram.. A statement needs to be made!
Author daj424 Posted November 17, 2017 Author Posted November 17, 2017 Maybe 30 years ago.. today if you can’t contact someone using their first name and place of work then you’re doing something wrong.. Big company, she was from one of the subsidiaries I don't know which, and she has a relatively common name. I wouldn't even know where to send the singing telegram. Thanks for the responses. I am emotionally illiterate or at least dyslexic lol. Just frustrating, it seems like I get this feeling about a woman right away about once every few years and there always some roadblock or she's not at all interested.
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