whichwayisup Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 First time I farted infront of my hubby (well boyfriend back then)and I were taking a romantic bath together and I tried to hold one in...Let's just say it's abit hard to hide a fart in a bathtub with bubbles as evidence. Embarressing but funny!
Tony T Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 I have always taken the position that intimacy is multifaceted and even includes having bowel movements together. I think once you have broken a good fart and move on to fecal elimination, your relationship has soared to new heights. There's not much ground to be broken once that happens. This thread has been very helpful to me!
april Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup First time I farted infront of my hubby (well boyfriend back then)and I were taking a romantic bath together and I tried to hold one in...Let's just say it's abit hard to hide a fart in a bathtub with bubbles as evidence. :lmao:
Naive Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup First time I farted infront of my hubby (well boyfriend back then)and I were taking a romantic bath together and I tried to hold one in...Let's just say it's abit hard to hide a fart in a bathtub with bubbles as evidence. Embarressing but funny! LOL and I thought my story was bad!!!!!!!
Jolene Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 I have always taken the position that intimacy is multifaceted and even includes having bowel movements together. I think once you have broken a good fart and move on to fecal elimination, your relationship has soared to new heights. There's not much ground to be broken once that happens. Sorry to say it, folks, but this is true! So if you think about it, if we are to be in a real relationship with a real human being that will really allow us our right to be a human being, he/she will understand that it is uncomfortable and painful to be around a person for so long while holding back harmless natural bodily functions for the sake of maintaining their superegos to be "sexy" beings, and we have to break wind sooner or later whether it is while we sleep or in the can. It's definitely about taking it to the next higher level where the message is clearly "even though it's not a sexy thing to do, I still love you because our relationship is not based on sex only". Otherwise, we resent our loved ones and crave to be isolated from them...like how long do you really want to be in this prison and how long will it really last at the first level where nobody ever farts, burps, craps or picks their nose? It's physical, but it's also psychological. Perhaps this concept is more complicated and difficult for some because they cannot face or understand real intimacy and get over the fact that when we share initmate space and time, we eventually let our guard down because we trust our SO. I'm not saying we should always let 'er rip whenever possible and wherever possible, but yes there eventually comes a time when you decide "is this other person worth all of this discomfort and pain, and why do I feel that it is necessary to be in all of this discomfort for the sake of my superego?" Being the ultimate sex goddess can get tiring at this rate, especially when regardless of how well you groom yourself and hold gas, never crap and make sure you wear sexy clothes and try try try to be perfect....he's still gonna stare at other hot chicks...so why knock yourself out for keeping a relationship at that Level One mode of basic instinct and sexual attraction?! It won't last. On the other hand, breathing in someone else's fecal matter is not my favourite thing to do, and I do my very best to leave the room when it happens regardless of the culprit. When it happens, however, by mistake, I don't want to be made to feel badly about it by someone who claims to love me and spends so much time with me intimately. We're all human, so why pretend that we don't fart? But I really hate it when a stranger does it in the bank in a crowd or in a restaurant....but if my SO does it from time to time when we are at home, he is entitled I think to enough respect in so far as he is human.
Outcast Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 there eventually comes a time when you decide "is this other person worth all of this discomfort and pain, and why do I feel that it is necessary to be in all of this discomfort for the sake of my superego?" ROTFL! I don't believe anyone was advocating that people never pass gas. It's possible to absent oneself from the situation to do so in most cases. ....but if my SO does it from time to time when we are at home, he is entitled I think to enough respect in so far as he is human. Which is a far cry from doing it in your face deliberately, don't you think?
Jolene Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 ROTFL! I don't believe anyone was advocating that people never pass gas. It's possible to absent oneself from the situation to do so in most cases. Ideally. Which is a far cry from doing it in your face deliberately, don't you think? Totally. But eventually, in the case of most men I've ever known, they want the leisure of doing it in front of you while maintaining a good ol' double standard that you continue to pretend that women have a superpower gas suppressing digestive system. That is awfully tiring after awhile. But I never said I am comfortable with it all being out in the open. I mean, if I had it my way, humans wouldn't be made this way, or there would be a pill (that actually works) to take it all away. I struggle with it all the time. I hate it. Lucky me, my SO has even carried our relationship to a wonderfully high level where he can read the paper on the can while I am showering. I don't know if I am particularly fond of stepping out of the shower and onto a work in progress, but I do appreciate that he trusts me enough to be that open about it from time to time. And because I honestly love him and find him super attractive no matter what, this kind of things doesn't make me see him as less attractive. Weird? I dunno Weird story, but amazingly true!
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Posted August 22, 2005 Okay so I think what it comes down to is the level of comfort you feel with them. It's a habit - it feels more natural after a while. As for the respectfulness aspect of it, IMO if you're both doing it and you're both comfortable with it, then it has nothing to do with your respect for each other. My exH laughed the first time I farted and I tried to hide it. He very loudly laughed saying YOU FARTED!!! Of course I tried to deny it but he wasn't buying it. I did it alot more in front of him, but I am just a gassy person. So what...he craps five times a day....I just ...fart. P.S. At work here there is alot of potty talk. We all find humor in it, and a few people have a standing joke where they will go fart in each others' office, or rub up against that person pretending to fart....all in fun....nothing to do with respect.
Mz. Pixie Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 My exhusband never did it in front of me. He locked the bathroom door anytime he was having a bowel movement. My new man started doing it in front of me right away- but he kind of has stomach issues. He will also leave the bathroom door open but I don't go in there when he's doing his business. I don't do it in front of any man unless I'm really really sick at the time. I just think it's nice manners. I love my new husband, even when he does it, but I have told him it creeps me out.
april Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 My exH laughed the first time I farted and I tried to hide it. He very loudly laughed saying YOU FARTED!!! Of course I tried to deny it but he wasn't buying it. OMG! I just howled when I read this : denying an OBVIOUS fart...too funny
seahorse Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 For me it isn't about trying to remain "sexy", or perfect. I am perfectly aware that we all pass gas, defecate, pee etc, but I prefer to do those things in private. Just as I prefer to do other stuff in private, like shaving my bits and changing tampons! It's also a matter of respect.
MattB Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Forget pooping with the door open...she sits in the bathroom with me until the stink drives her out. You know your comfortable when you can pee in the shower.....with her in there with you and all she does is wish she had a little hose to aim hers then hugs you and asks you if your leg is feeling warmer. We fart in front of each other all the time. It's just a fart. It stinks for a minute then it's gone. I still remember the night we were laying in bed discussing farting of all things, and how fast they came out. So suddenly she takes my hand, shoves it between her cheeks and let one fly. I repaid her by ripping a big one and pulling the sheets over her head. We still laugh about it to this day.
johan Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Originally posted by MattB Forget pooping with the door open...she sits in the bathroom with me until the stink drives her out. You know your comfortable when you can pee in the shower.....with her in there with you and all she does is wish she had a little hose to aim hers then hugs you and asks you if your leg is feeling warmer. We fart in front of each other all the time. It's just a fart. It stinks for a minute then it's gone. I still remember the night we were laying in bed discussing farting of all things, and how fast they came out. So suddenly she takes my hand, shoves it between her cheeks and let one fly. I repaid her by ripping a big one and pulling the sheets over her head. We still laugh about it to this day. There's nothing like reminiscing about the happy times. "Honey? Remember that time I pissed on your leg and farted on your hand? <Sigh!> Why don't we do that anymore?"
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