MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Most people I know will pass gas and burp in front of family members freely including their SO. My family and my exH's family included. I recently posted my disgust at a guy who farted on our third date, really LOUD. How comfortable do you feel doing this in front of your SO? How long were you together before one of you did it in front of the other? Were you embarassed or did it feel great to finally break the ice (or cut the cheese)! My co-worker friend was married to a woman 10 yrs older and he told me they never EVER did this sort of thing around each other. My best friend's H took a lonnnng time as well. I joked about it with my last BF....something about leaning up against him in bed and planting one on his leg....and he laughed and said "it's a little early in the relationship to be thinkin about that"...it was funny though.
NYCmitch25 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 It's not the end of the world, but it can change the relationship and how the guy perceives you. The "experts" I've read said that women who want to always appear attractive to their SO shouldn't ever really do it. They should keep the bathroom business to themselves. From what I've seen, women get more comfortable with there mates find it almost necessary to do all these things in front of them. However, I guess it's not so funny anymore when their SO is checking out the long legged blond on the line at the supermarket. I wish I could remember the words they used because it really seemed to make sense when I read it.
Outcast Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 IMHO respect is a BIG part of love. Foisting your unpleasant bodily functions on someone you care about isn't very respectful. Nobody can help accidents but I do my very best to keep icky stuff of mine away from people in general and and SO especially. Kinda puts a dint in sexiness, dontcha think?
seahorse Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 In a 23 relationship with my ex hubby, I never explicitly farted around him lol. I can't account for what may have happened while I was asleep, but I just didn't feel comfortable about it; it's just not ladylike! I'd go into another room or suppress it or try to be very very discreet about it. I wasn't into sharing the loo either if I was on the toilet. I'm now in a relationship with a new guy (about ten months now), and while he now seems happy to let rip a bit when he has to, and I just laugh, I wouldn't do it in front of him. Call me repressed lol.
Pendawn Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 With my ex he was a BIG farter - loud, smelly, lots of shwoing off - so it came to the point where I farted freely in front of him too. Mind you we had a very kind of "comfy" relationship, and I lost all inhibitions after about 3 months when we were play fighting, I was above him straddling him and laughed so much a large amount of snot flew out my nose onto his shoulder. With new bf mush more reserved kind of guy, he's not into toilet humour and he's never farted in front of me, nor I him. i do burp relatively freely in front of him - find it impossible not to.
933KJL Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Barring severe intestinal distress and nocturnal emissions, I have never allowed a SO or any woman hear me fart. I mean every now and then you HAVE to let one go, but I will usually walk away, or blame the dog. I agree, it is about respect and I just don't see it. If it happened as an accident, I would look the other way--as I would expect her to, but I an very conscious about not doing that in front of a lady. I don't even do it in front of the boys either.
whichwayisup Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 I fart anytime, anywhere and I am not shy about it either. (he just deals with it. At times he laughs and other times he doesn't laugh...) I leave the door open when I poop/pee. So does he. Sometimes I will lay on the hallway floor and stretch out with my legs up the wall and we'll talk while he's pooping. We have no shame... I guess we don't respect either that way?? But for us it's not a big deal and it's not like I'm ripping them while we're intimate...
933KJL Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup I fart anytime, anywhere and I am not shy about it either. (he just deals with it. At times he laughs and other times he doesn't laugh...) I leave the door open when I poop/pee. So does he. Sometimes I will lay on the hallway floor and stretch out with my legs up the wall and we'll talk while he's pooping. We have no shame... I guess we don't respect either that way?? But for us it's not a big deal and it's not like I'm ripping them while we're intimate... EEEEEEW
johan Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 I did all the time with my first serious girlfriend. I haven't done it with one since. I decided it was disrespectful. I wouldn't blow smoke in her face. I brush my teeth for her. I wouldn't expect her to inhale my fecal vapor. I expect my girl to accept some things about me and who I really am. But I don't subject her to that.
HokeyReligions Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Fart: Hubby - let 'em rip after about our third date. Me - I still go into the bathroom (99% of the time---sometimes there is no way to get away and I'm not going to burst during a car ride!) Sometimes when I'm in a goofy mood I'll stick out my finger and let him pull! I know its silly, but it makes him laugh and that makes me laugh. Sometimes I don't want to be a lady Burp: Hubby - first date Me - After about a year or so I let one slip -- but it was repressed , now we have belching contests! I just don't feel that its very feminine or as someone else said, ladylike.
RecordProducer Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 My ex-husband and i never did it in front of each other. Same with my relationship of 6 years before him. I also think it's disrespectful towards the lady and certainly not lady-like.
Craig Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 I don't fart in anyone's presence and would never date a woman that farted freely. What's next, a bedpan at the dinner table?
whichwayisup Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 I know when the right time is and I know when not to. It's not like a house of gas 24/7 eh!
Sal Paradise Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 I lay down the fart law pretty early in a relationship. Its not that I'm a caveman but I'm not going to hide my need to let the gas go. Most of my gas is health related so I figure she may as well know early on the drawbacks of being with me. That being said I also fully accept her farting in front of me. If you need to do it there is no reason why you should have to go hide in the bathroom. I find it odd that western society views farting/belching openly as a sign of immaturity, I find it immature to feel the need to conceal something natural and harmless. Most farts are odorless anyways. It really comes down to the persons diet.
april Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Originally posted by Sal Paradise I lay down the fart law pretty early in a relationship. I got a good chuckle out of that...don't know why exactly...maybe because I don't do it...really I don't. I'll sit with the biggest, most painful, ball of gas in my gut, rather than let one go in front of a b/f. April
johan Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 I've been thinking I'd like it to be pleasant to be around me and I should try to remain attractive for my girlfriend, but screw her. I'm an animal when you get right down to it. Next time I invite my girlfriend over for dinner, I'll go ahead and serve her a big steaming plate of ****. Then we'll laugh together. I need to understand the rules though. Where do you draw the line? I'm sure those who claim flatulence as a right also do so in public, in church, at funerals, on first dates, and in important meetings. Why would you control yourself for a bunch of strangers? I've been thinking it was insulting and disrespectful to force someone to consume my waste. Maybe not if you love them.
Outcast Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Oh crap, Johan. Just pee in the kitchen sink. It's 'natural' to have to go and if you're in the kitchen, why have to go all the way to the toilet? For that matter, just let go on the rug. These wretched social constraints are the downfall of civilization!
johan Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 The sink is kind of high. I have a bucket I'll keep handy. My girlfriend can empty it for me. We can laugh about it.
april Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Originally posted by johan I have a bucket I'll keep handy. A hefty bag is good too, johan.... Then you can just dispose of it like regular trash. I mean, you know...when it contains MORE than just pee April
whichwayisup Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Originally posted by april I'll sit with the biggest, most painful, ball of gas in my gut, rather than let one go in front of a b/f. April That isn't good though. Just causes unnecessary pains in the tummy and makes you feel worse. I guess too, depending on how you look at it, it's a comfort level or acceptance level you have with your spouse. Everybody is different and has their own thoughts on this one! I don't do it at the dinner table! I know where to draw the line. Looks like Sal P and I are basically the only one who has no problems with it...
Naive Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Most people I know will pass gas and burp in front of family members freely including their SO. My family and my exH's family included. I recently posted my disgust at a guy who farted on our third date, really LOUD. How comfortable do you feel doing this in front of your SO? How long were you together before one of you did it in front of the other? Were you embarassed or did it feel great to finally break the ice (or cut the cheese)! My co-worker friend was married to a woman 10 yrs older and he told me they never EVER did this sort of thing around each other. My best friend's H took a lonnnng time as well. I joked about it with my last BF....something about leaning up against him in bed and planting one on his leg....and he laughed and said "it's a little early in the relationship to be thinkin about that"...it was funny though. The first time I farted while my fiance was around was about 5 years ago but I was mortified. We were watching a movie (cuddled together) and we dozed off. While I was falling asleep I did not feel the gas coming and it was so loud it woke him up!!! He thought it was so cute, he even said, "oh baby that is so cute" I tried to play it off and said, "leave me alone I am sleeping" but deep down inside I was so embarrased Now we fart like nothing. I even warn him when I do He started farting aroound me since we had about 1 year together and that was about 6 years ago!
lindya Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 Originally posted by johan The sink is kind of high. I have a bucket I'll keep handy. My girlfriend can empty it for me. We can laugh about it. The options are unlimited once you get into it. For instance, who could say no to a cosy night indoors, consuming a large vat of highly spiced chilli and a gallon of beer...then following the feast up with a hearty night's entertainment of sprawling out on the floor and setting eachother's farts alight?
johan Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 Originally posted by lindya consuming a large vat of highly spiced chilli and ... setting eachother's farts alight? I'd recommend against this. You might be misled by thinking the burn is just because of the spices, when in fact you're scorching yourself. By the time you realize the difference, you might be in for a trip to the ER.
april Posted August 21, 2005 Posted August 21, 2005 Originally posted by ~Naive~ The first time I farted while my fiance was around was about 5 years ago but I was mortified. We were watching a movie (cuddled together) and we dozed off. While I was falling asleep I did not feel the gas coming and it was so loud it woke him up!!! He thought it was so cute, he even said, "oh baby that is so cute" I tried to play it off and said, "leave me alone I am sleeping" but deep down inside I was so embarrased That is SUCH a funny story!!!
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