deeski2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 OK here goes... there was a girl I met I would say well over a year ago.I would say its been about a year and 4 months to be exact since I have heard from nor seen her. we met by way of my mom in October of 2015. she said she had seen me several times but had never said anything. she sees my mom walking our dog and exchange pleasantries and converse. she passes her # to my mom to give to me. I used her # and we hit it off. only prop was I was talking to someone else before I met her and told her this. me and this other girl hit it off but moved a bit too fast and sadly I picked the wrong one now that I look back in hindsight. she said we could be friends but it became quite apparent that that just could not be. she was still trying to have me in the capacity of a lover. so much so that I had to remind her about me being with the other girl and had to catch her self. we conversed for some months later and all the sudden just fell off abruptly. fast forward to towards the end of September of this year my mom bumps into her. they exchange words and catch up. she gives my mom her new # and mentions nothing of me. about a month later she bumps into her yet again on her way to work. only difference is this time she says to tell me hi. I have many reasons in my head as to why she did this but I would like to get others input before I use the #. all opinions are welcomed & wanted but one of a woman would serve better seeing how you have the psyche of a female. If you have been in a similar situation that would help too. thank you.
elaine567 Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Are you now completely single or are you still with the same girl or are you seeing, speaking with someone else?
act00 Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Was it phone girl or old girlfriend that was trying to be friends and trying to sleep with you? Was it the girlfriend that was the wrong choice and you wish you pursued phone girl? Was it the girlfriend who disappeared or the phone girl or both? Are you still in this "friendship" with the girlfriend? I'm really lost on the scenario. If you're not with someone, and you'd like to pursue phone girl and see where it goes, give it a try. If you're not interested in a romantic relationship, or friendship, don't bother calling or texting. If she was making moves on you and you don't want her in that way, don't bother calling or texting. Do you want to date her or not? If yes, call. If no, don't call.
Author deeski2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Author Posted November 16, 2017 also my mom did have her old # but as far as I know never talked on the phone.
Author deeski2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Author Posted November 16, 2017 I am completely single and not seeking anyone else. 1
Author deeski2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Author Posted November 16, 2017 yes it was the phone girl who I wish I pursued and age was the one that still was trying to be with me. aand we both sort of disappeared and lost contact and I am no longer with the other one.
caveman621 Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 If you're now completely available, then CALL HER!
elaine567 Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Call her, but be prepared to find out she is now dating someone else, and only gave out her number to be friendly or to "catch up".
Author deeski2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Author Posted November 16, 2017 i appreciate you all for the input BUT you all are missing the point. what I was trying to figure out why she gave my mom her number and they don't even talk like that and in lieu of the conversation not mention me not once. and sees her on an second ocassion then all of the sudden want to say hi!? I mean when she saw my mom I should have came to mind. its only natural. I got a mean scenario in my mind. I believe she passed my mom her number thinking she would pass it to me for me to use or to see if I would use it. time goes by and she probably assume my mom didnt pass it on so that was her way of reaching out and reminding her. I will use her number though.
kendahke Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 (edited) If she gave her phone number to your mom and didn't specifically say "please give deeski my number. I'm looking forward to hearing from him", then she was being pleasant with your mom. I'm surprised your mom didn't say "here, dear, this is deeski's number" and encouraged her to call you since she's cool enough with the girl to continually chat with her. I'm wondering why your mom didn't do that and just cut out the middle woman. She could also have told the girl you're single and free, but hasn't. Why is that? They talk in some way because they make it a point to chat with one another when they see each other. Since you're not there, you really can't speak to the in person dynamic between them. It's not clear to her that you're free, so she's still under the assumption that you're unavailable, so that's why she's not really arsing herself and that's why she's not bringing you up to your mom (and your mom isn't telling her either) because what's the point when the last conversation she had with you was: I was talking to someone else before I met her and told her this. Edited November 16, 2017 by kendahke
smackie9 Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 grow a set...... call her up and ask her out. 1
Author deeski2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Author Posted November 16, 2017 (edited) I hear you but you seem to forget she was trying to steal me away even when I was getting serious with the other one. you may be right though as far as her not speaking on me due to her being unsure. as far as her being pleasant, I highly doubt it. as chatty as they are they haven't spoken on the phone and she hasn't used her # new. i believe thats why she gave my mom the # with hopes of her passing it along. to see if i would use it. then her doubt will be gone. another thing, you seemed to miss the fact that she didnt mention me the first time, yet said hi the second time. I appreciate you for your insight though. the middle woman gets cut out tonight and all uncertainty will be laid to rest. Edited November 16, 2017 by deeski2017
olivetree Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 I think that none of here knows what she is thinking and that you should take a chance and call her up. After all, it was because of you that it didn't go anywhere before. 1
kendahke Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 I hear you but you seem to forget she was trying to steal me away even when I was getting serious with the other one. There really isn't anything to forget--you weren't available, you made that clear and she moved on. Just because things didn't work out for you and the chick you were with didn't obligate her to be on stand-by for whenever you got free. You're just a dude she sort of knows. That's it. you may be right though as far as her not speaking on me due to her being unsure. as far as her being pleasant, I highly doubt it. as chatty as they are they haven't spoken on the phone and she hasn't used her # new. i believe thats why she gave my mom the # with hopes of her passing it along. to see if i would use it. then her doubt will be gone. another thing, you seemed to miss the fact that she didnt mention me the first time, yet said hi the second time.. Seriously? None of that matters. If you have her number, then use it. Light a candle already instead of cursing the darkness. Sheesh!
Recommended Posts