Beachgrl486 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 When your ex starts dating someone new not too long after you break up that they could still want you back? Is it possible both are just to afraid to take the risk of getting back together and just move on but do not really want to and find yourself in a new relationship still thinking about your ex a lot more than you should.
bhsunny21 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Different people have different ways of coping with a break up. If it was a long relationship and a messy break up, then perhaps one would move on more quickly. In *my* experience, it is always the dumper that is able to move on more quickly and start dating others in a short amount of time. I have been in relationships where I moved on and didn't even *think* back to my ex. And more recently, I have just been in a situation where my ex broke up with me and was with another woman 2 days after. He called me a few days later, told me what happened and how being with someone else made him realize that he wants me. Everyone is different, but moving on quickly is, more often than not, a rebound situation. Whether or not it is a mechanism to hide the risk of trying again, I am not sure. I always think that it is worth taking the risk of what you are feeling as opposed to being afraid of it. Even if, lets say, you call your ex and want to talk to him. This is a huge risk. You will find out at this time if he is wanting to talk to you as well, or if he doesn't. Either way, you took the risk and you will be able to move on, whether it is toward him or away from him. I hope this makes sense! I wish you the best of luck!
brittanyjean259 Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 it goes both ways, usally when some1 is dumped...they go for some1 or vice versa it depends on who you are... that is possible though they move on so they dont have to experience the pain...but the pain wont just go away it will find you and ifyour not dealing with it now, youll deal with it later....if not than i dont think" your human" ( not you) i could be wrong though whats your situation? im in that situation kind of..i dumped they rebounded( man oh man it does hurt)
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