Ivy1609 Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 I heard a phone conversation between he and his best friend by mistake and they were talking about how hot other girls are (just girls in general) and about girls they see in the street or female friends. Then in the same phone conversation my boyfriend said that he will never cheat on me and will never try to initiate a situation that could lead to cheating because he is fine with me. I have to admit that I’m surprise that he talks about other girls like that because he always compliments me a lot and he really has me like in a pedestal. Is a normal guys thing to do?
Ieris Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 I think it's pretty normal, most males I know do it.
Author Ivy1609 Posted November 15, 2017 Author Posted November 15, 2017 Well.. he is 23 and I’m 21 but i guess yes it can be normal at his age.
kendahke Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 Yes. Guys talk this way with one another just like you have conversations about guys with your girlfriends. It means nothing. But why are you eavesdropping on your boyfriend's conversations? Did he know you were there?
Author Ivy1609 Posted November 15, 2017 Author Posted November 15, 2017 Yes. Guys talk this way with one another just like you have conversations about guys with your girlfriends. It means nothing. But why are you eavesdropping on your boyfriend's conversations? Did he know you were there? I was sleeping in his room and he was in the living room and I heard from there. I know it was wrong and I wish I didn’t hear that.
smackie9 Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 It's how men bond with each other....showin off their masculinity. Now what you can do is tell him you would appreciate it if he kept those phone calls for when you are not there because you can HEAR EVERYTHING.
smackie9 Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 I was sleeping in his room and he was in the living room and I heard from there. I know it was wrong and I wish I didn’t hear that. It's one thing to go through his phone, but, you were there and it just happened so it's no fault of yours. He's a dummy thinkin you wouldn't hear. Next time it happens, text him that you can HEAR EVERYTHING! lol
kortz Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 Totally normal. In fact he made the effort to point out to his friend he wouldn't cheat on you or get into a situation like that when really he didn't have to explain that to a friend...so good for you. But yea as others have said just tell him you heard him from the bedroom and to keep it down in future as it kept you awake. Don't make it into a big deal.
guest569 Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 I don't think so. Also, I always wonder why people feel the need to state that they will not cheat on their partner.
smackie9 Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 Put u up on a pedestal?....Don't think for a moment this means anything.
snowboy91 Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 Yeah it's perfectly normal. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you won't think other people are attractive - I'm sure you feel that way too. What matters is that neither of you actually act on those desires. My partner openly admits she finds some of my friends attractive. I know she wouldn't go for it - so we just turn it into a fun discussion (she asks me which of her friends I find attractive... and we laugh about it!) I feel if that's out in the open, then it makes cheating less likely as there are no unrealistic expectations.
d0nnivain Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 Is a normal guys thing to do? Men look & then they talk to their buddies about what they saw. It may be crass but it's not an indication of much. As he matures, that kind of conversation won't happen as much.
Author Ivy1609 Posted November 15, 2017 Author Posted November 15, 2017 Put u up on a pedestal?....Don't think for a moment this means anything. I guess that what I was trying to say is that I know he loves me very much and he has a lot of details with me.
smackie9 Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 I guess that what I was trying to say is that I know he loves me very much and he has a lot of details with me. Which is something you don't need to doubt, BUT, you are way off believing people completely stop desiring others because they are in a relationship. That's not reality.
Author Ivy1609 Posted November 15, 2017 Author Posted November 15, 2017 Which is something you don't need to doubt, BUT, you are way off believing people completely stop desiring others because they are in a relationship. That's not reality. Yes! This is my first relationship so I guess I tend to overthink a little.
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