JS17 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 This is a spin off from another thread but something I learned to think about when evaluating new men. I always have thought of Needs as being categorized into 3 groups. What are the types of needs that you look for a partner to meet in a relationship and what is the priority? For me it is, in this order: 1 - Emotional Needs (I consider Physical/Sexual to be a subcategory of Emotional Needs) 2 - Social Needs (Includes friendships and lifestyle) 3 - Economic Needs (Not high on my priority list)
Dean3922 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Really JS I think you are making this to much of a business inquiry than a date. It is fine to have expectations for the person you want to be with but I don't think you can just go in with a laundry list of requirements and expect results. I understand you want to protect your heart but I think you just have to go in with the expectation of having fun and see there it leads. Even serious dating needs to be about fun. You get to know someone and if you find out things about them that you can't accept then you move on. I think you know what you want in a man so keep that in mind when you are dating and do not be swayed by his looks or charm. It will come...
Author JS17 Posted August 19, 2005 Author Posted August 19, 2005 That wasn't the point of this thread. The point was to see what other people look for and think is important in a relationship.
thegoodhubbie Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Kindness is key for me. My wife and I used to work together. That is how we met. I had liked her right off the bat (she was my "type") and in getting to know her I came to find we had a lot in common. But what really "did" it for me was one day I was helping her take out the garbage and it had been drizzling. She had an umbrella with her and as we were walking back toward the building, she insisted I get under it with her and out of the rain. My wife has this sparkle in her eyes, and the way she looked at me when she offered the umbrealla just melted me. It is pretty silly I guess, but that act of kindness meant a lot.
Outcast Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 A guy named Steve Harley has a great book and a site that deals a lot with people's needs. His list of categories is: Affection Sexual Fulfillment Conversation Recreational Companionship Honesty and Openness Physical Attractiveness Financial Support Domestic Support Family Commitment Admiration Different people need these things to varying degrees.
Merin Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 What I look for... Sense of Humour, if a Guy can't laugh and be funny there isn't a lot of incentive for me to want to know more.. Sexual/Physical attraction... without the initial attraction chances of a romantic relationship going on are slim.. Compassion and Care for his family/friends... I really feel the way a person treats those who are closest to them are a good indication of how they may treat you.
lindya Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 The ability to stimulate eachother sexually and intellectually, and have a laugh together. That makes an excellent start. Mutual respect and a shared commitment towards making the relationship work are what's needed to keep things going.
NYCmitch25 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 1 - not on drugs 2 - not formally in the porn industry 3 - filthy rich 4 - into a little bondage 5 - not too old Any takers ? (evil grin) ps. oh, my point was that I think your "demands" were a little too broad.
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