Pc3 Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 Hey Everyone, not sure why I’m posting. Maybe just looking for some sort of release or hoping someone has some insight on my situation. Honestly I’m at a point where I really want a relationship with an amazing woman. I have a phone with multiple “booty call” numbers but, I’m not really interested in short relationships with emotionally distant people . I really just want a woman who wants to call me and tell me about her day. I want a woman that i go to the grocery store with. a partner. The problem is this. I’m an actor living in Hollywood. I’m 5 10 weigh 180. i do both fitness modeling and like billboards, i go the gym too much, i spend too much time in Improv classes, I’m personable and I’m told I’m funny. I make a bunch of money, I love playing the stock market and reading great big books on interesting subjects. all my friends ask me if I’ll take them out so they can meet women. I do and it’s fun. Buuuuut I’m so weirdly alone. The type of woman I’m interested in don’t return calls, say we should just be friends, I get flaked on by women I honestly just want to he friends with I get flaked on by women I want to date. I have a bunch of great lady friends Who always say They should be with a guy like me, im a great catch. When I ask why they aren’t they change the subject. Every one of my Friends’s girl friends are confused why I’m single at 31. I’m not rude, I’m not much of a “nice guy” but respectful. I so far had tons of great dates that went terrific usually end with making out in my car with some of the most amazing women on the planet and they all tell me the next day, they would never date someone like me, or that They think I’m a player, or say some other rude ****, or not even text me back. One girl blocked my texts and Facebook after the greatest date I have ever had with a woman. it honestly hurts. i have friends who do promo modeling Or work cash registers, have limited vocabulary and personality, (yesI know I’m being harsh to people I call my friends here but I’m frustrated) yet they have models texting constantly trying to go steady. Can someone please explain to me what is happening? Also why is it impossible any more to have real conversations anymore and just block? It’s like someone is afraid to tell me something ?
d0nnivain Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 Perhaps it's your profession & where you live. If you are dating other industry types & can't help their careers you are not as interesting to them as the guy who can. Where are you meeting people? That may have a bearing on the quality of their characters.
Yosemite Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 I so far had tons of great dates that went terrific usually end with making out in my car with some of the most amazing women on the planet and they all tell me the next day, they would never date someone like me, or that They think I’m a player, or say some other rude ****, or not even text me back. One girl blocked my texts and Facebook after the greatest date I have ever had with a woman. It’s odd that women are making such insulting comments out of the blue after one date. If just one woman overreacted after a date, you could ignore it, but it sounds like this has happened to you a few times. It might be worthwhile to examine your behavior to see if you are doing something insulting or demeaning to provoke so much anger after one date. It’s also not a good sign that you experience the date so differently than the woman does. Your date is upset to the point that she’s making rude comments to you after one date, but you think that the night went great. If she didn’t insult you over text the next day, you would have no idea that things went wrong or any idea of how she felt. That makes it seem like you’re in your own world during date and not in tune with/connecting with her. If you were, you wouldn’t be so shocked that she didn’t have the amazing time that you did. *It’s like someone is afraid to tell me something No one’s going to tell you what the problem is even though it’s probably pretty clear to the people who know you IRL. You’re going to have to figure it out yourself. Maybe a dating coach can help you. Or you can post a specific scenario here and we can tell you where we think you went wrong, but you’ll have to be pretty detailed in order to get good feedback. 1
ShyLove Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 I live in the same area as you and do not date actors I don't care how much money they make. Most of them go on and on about themselves like other people aren't even in the room. Not that you would do that on purpose but do you think that may be something you are doing unintentionally? Bc its a huge turnoff. "Actresses" too. I can't stomach being around someone in the "scene" for more than 5 minutes lol Not assuming you are that way but Just be more conscious of that ) 3
smackie9 Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 You intimidate women. They don't trust a guy that has women pawing all over them, especially in your line of work. You have way too much opportunity to get with other women. It's a narrow point of view but there are straight thinking women that don't want to deal with that kind of competition or have to worry about whom you are being exposed to. I guess what they have been seeing in the media, actors/infidelity going hand in hand plays a huge role. Maybe they see you as unstable to be a husband and father in your line of work. OR you are just simply dating the wrong people. Hard to find real substance and love in Hollywood. 1
dumbass2 Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 Now tell us some things you think you don't do well. What do you need to work on? Things related to relationships and communicating with people.
kendahke Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 (edited) It could be the caliber of women you're choosing to date. Change what/who you date and you may change who you meet. It does take a certain kind of a person to deal with a partner who's in show business, be it a model, actor or musician. Insecure women are always going to be assume that you cannot be faithful or can't keep it in your pants, so your best bet is finding someone grounded and secure, first. Also, I'd cut back on making out on the first date. Try not to do something predictable like that--they may think if you do that with them, you do it with other chicks. Just a suggestion since you're fishing for 'em. It's not hard to find love in SoCal (I found it there). Hollywood is a barrio--only Paramount is still in H-wood. Look for someone in Orange, Ventura or Riverside counties. Since you're flush, gas shouldn't be a problem. Can't help you out on the traffic, though... Edited November 14, 2017 by kendahke 1
Versacehottie Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 Hey Everyone, not sure why I’m posting. Maybe just looking for some sort of release or hoping someone has some insight on my situation. Honestly I’m at a point where I really want a relationship with an amazing woman. I have a phone with multiple “booty call” numbers but, I’m not really interested in short relationships with emotionally distant people . I really just want a woman who wants to call me and tell me about her day. I want a woman that i go to the grocery store with. a partner. The problem is this. I’m an actor living in Hollywood. I’m 5 10 weigh 180. i do both fitness modeling and like billboards, i go the gym too much, i spend too much time in Improv classes, I’m personable and I’m told I’m funny. I make a bunch of money, I love playing the stock market and reading great big books on interesting subjects. all my friends ask me if I’ll take them out so they can meet women. I do and it’s fun. Buuuuut I’m so weirdly alone. The type of woman I’m interested in don’t return calls, say we should just be friends, I get flaked on by women I honestly just want to he friends with I get flaked on by women I want to date. I have a bunch of great lady friends Who always say They should be with a guy like me, im a great catch. When I ask why they aren’t they change the subject. Every one of my Friends’s girl friends are confused why I’m single at 31. I’m not rude, I’m not much of a “nice guy” but respectful. I so far had tons of great dates that went terrific usually end with making out in my car with some of the most amazing women on the planet and they all tell me the next day, they would never date someone like me, or that They think I’m a player, or say some other rude ****, or not even text me back. One girl blocked my texts and Facebook after the greatest date I have ever had with a woman. it honestly hurts. i have friends who do promo modeling Or work cash registers, have limited vocabulary and personality, (yesI know I’m being harsh to people I call my friends here but I’m frustrated) yet they have models texting constantly trying to go steady. Can someone please explain to me what is happening? Also why is it impossible any more to have real conversations anymore and just block? It’s like someone is afraid to tell me something ? Hmmm sounds a little perplexing. Well just going to guess at some things (because you can only change yourself and your approach), not change other people so it does no real help to "blame" them. I also live in LA and have met/know lots of people in the entertainment business. I think it's admirable & insightful that you are looking for something real and a true partner. A. What type of girls do you like? What type do you ask out? How do you meet them? B. I would also agree with trying to date people less from hollywood/the "business" cities and try to date people from south bay, etc. Where people have real, less transitory jobs (even if they do well in hollywood, the vibe and people's intentions are different; people who are in more normal/stable businesses I think tend to be more inclined to want to settle down). C. 100% honest. Sometimes guys who spend too much time in gym or obsessing over their looks are not as attractive on the whole as their physical looks would seem to afford them. Also sometimes guys people are not as good looking as they think they are. Or as funny as they think they are (just being real). Or consider the fact that if you are always "on", it's not that cool for dating either. D. I agree with the person who said above that it's a little odd that you have such a different perception of these dates than the women you go on them with do. Also that after a date or two that their reactions are so extreme. Something doesn't add up with that. E. The business doesn't have much of reputation for people with honest and direct intentions. And lots of times people are looking for the bigger, better deal (especially with people!!). I would again say to look in a variety of places, groups of people, activities, etc. You will just have to keep looking and make sure you are not doing the same thing--that could be why you keep getting burned too. F. Also 100% honest, as someone said above, a decent percentage of people are wary of dating actors. Many of my friends would entertain it for fun but hesitate to get serious. Some people are worried about the lifestyle, some people are worrying about the stability of the career. If you were an actress, it would be a plus for dating, not so much as an actor unless you are pretty well known. G. The last thing I am guessing is that if your girl friends are telling you that you are a catch and your guy friends with less going on are doing better than you, it's usually a personality/flirting/game issue. All things equal, I'm guessing this is the biggest factor. A guy with a lot of girl friends but none dying to date him, is kind of an all around nice guy and relatively good looking wouldn't have it that hard even for casual (and some of your casuals would want to be serious even if you didn't) IF YOU HAVE GAME, flirty, charming personality and don't go overboard with a little attention in your desire to have a relationship. Keep posting and maybe we can figure it out. Good luck
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