elenalaughterlove10 Posted November 13, 2017 Posted November 13, 2017 So I recently joined a group on FB of people who like to do stuff like going to festivals, different art fairs and stuff. I posted something about a particular event and got a message request from a guy. It started off innocently enough with him asking me if he can join me and my friends, and we were suddenly exchanging messages all day long. It started off with us joking about stuff, then he told me his long term serious girlfriend whom he had planned on marrying had just left him (like two months prior to that). That instantly was a red flag. Am I a rebound? He got semi/flirty with me, telling me I have become quite important to him and I make him feel all warm inside, and as someone who has been through a terrible break up, I know that after that you will thrive on any attention you get from the opposite sex (or same if you/re gay or both if you/re bi...you know what I mean). I am fully aware of this and I kind of backed off after he told me that. Then he sent me a message explaining to me I don't have to worry, he is not looking for a relationship, he just likes to meet new people. But he/s continued to be quite flirty and eager to respond to my messages. The thing is, he seems like a nice guy with whom I have a lot in common. I thought I could be friends with him and see in a few months if something happens, when he has healed. He's also posting stuff about his break up on his social networks, which is something my ex did and I didn't appreciate it. This guy seems super nice, sweet, clever, but I am scared. Please help me. What should I do?
d0nnivain Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 Just meet him. You won't know anything until you do. Be cautious. Go slow. Don't give your heart away but meet him.
Highndry Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 I keep hearing about this "rebound relationship" thing, but I've never been in one. Why is this assumed to be a fact? Also, how long does one have to be out of a relationship to not be considered a threat to potential mates? I don't get this stuff.
d0nnivain Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 I keep hearing about this "rebound relationship" thing, but I've never been in one. Why is this assumed to be a fact? Also, how long does one have to be out of a relationship to not be considered a threat to potential mates? I don't get this stuff. The time frame varies from person to person. Basically a rebound is when someone ends a relationship but then can't stand being alone so they glom onto the 1st willing person they come into contact with to fill the void in their lives. The rebounder doesn't really care about the new person; they just want someone, anyone, there so they don't have to be alone. Some people are emotionally "done" long before the relationship is officially declared over so they need less time to regroup afterwards.
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