AndrewJ Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Hey all just wonder if anyone could decipher this sms for me. Its a full moon and asked this chick out for a moonlit stroll. "HaHa a moonlit stroll huh? cnt tonight bub im hvin a few drinks at hme w. t. flatties gota gt up in t. mrnin im being good yup yup *bunt*"
Art_Critic Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 I see this as a good thing.. She is saying she is being good.. meaning not being with you scrogging your brains out all night long.. It sounds like she will come around for you
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Originally posted by AndrewJ "HaHa a moonlit stroll huh? cnt tonight bub im hvin a few drinks at hme w. t. flatties gota gt up in t. mrnin im being good yup yup *bunt*" She isn't quite sure what you mean by 'midnight stroll' and the 'haha' and 'huh' are indicating that she thinks that there will be more to it than just walking around in the moonlight. She tells you that she can't tonight (bub being used similarly to 'dude'), and says she will be drinking with her roommates, and since she has to get up early in the morning - she is going to be 'good' by staying at home and getting to bed at a decent time. *bunt*? Beats me. I still am not entirely sure what she means by that. I've seen definitions but none seem to really fit hte context. Maybe you should ask her? Basically, you were turned down because she wanted to stay at home, have a few drinks and turn in early. If a guy turned me down like that, I'd know immediately that he simply wasn't that interested - its not like taking a walk with someone is some lengthy, physically challenging thing that will make someone so tired that they can't get up in the morning. If I am into a guy and very interested, there is no way I'd turn that down - I'd make time, even if it were only thirty minutes just so that I could see him for a few minutes.
Author AndrewJ Posted August 19, 2005 Author Posted August 19, 2005 i asked her what bunt meant after she sent it to me in the past, she rubbed her head against my body affectionettly like a cat would she said thats a bunt. what u think LB?
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 It sounds to me like she appreciates, welcomes and accepts your attention, but doesn't always go out of her way to return it because while she has an interest level, it isn't exactly the highest that it could get. This generally comes off looking like 'teasing' - where a girl appears actively interested, but is mostly just receptive to your interest with no guarantee that she'll consistently return it. Its better than an actual rejection, but it can definitely be frustrating - especially if the girl actually does go out with you from time to time.
Author AndrewJ Posted August 19, 2005 Author Posted August 19, 2005 LB, i think you are right. You seriously need to write a book u r the best. What should i do, Im thinkin applying No contact this instant ..in fact its the only solution she crave sthe attention and im falling for it. Stupid me im an idiot for a cute smile
Outcast Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Or it could just mean that she stayed in because she knew she'd have trouble leaving you and she added 'bunt' because she wanted you to not be mad. I don't think LB should be encouraging you to be mad at her over this. This view that 'if x really likes you she'll drop her whole life for you' is not too smart, IMHO. She had obligations and figured it was wiser to stay home one night. Give her a break.
Author AndrewJ Posted August 19, 2005 Author Posted August 19, 2005 Outcast, Thank you for your view. ur post sends me my mind racing. I will lay low. LB seems very wise every thing she posts is admired.
Outcast Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 I generally agree with LB myself but I don't in this case. I have been in situations where, no matter how much I wanted to spend time with someone, I had to make myself stay home because I had responsibilities. That a person doesn't drop everything or jump to see you every time you want her to doesn't necessarily mean that she's not into you. It might mean that she's not so obsessively addicted to you that she'll abandon everything else for you but that's not a bad thing.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 I don't think LB should be encouraging you to be mad at her over this. I never encouraged him to be angry. Just careful. Judging from her past behavior and text message habits in past posts, I see nothing that suggests that she is into this for anything more than just flirting and playing around. She enjoys the attention, but doesn't consistently return it. That's what girls do with guys they are into just enough to accept and enjoy the attention. Is there anything wrong with that, or is it something to get angry over? Certainly not - but it does help to keep your emotions in check when you have more invested in it than the other person does.
Outcast Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Certainly not - but it does help to keep your emotions in check when you have more invested in it than the other person does. True. Ideally you try to keep pace with the other person's rate of involvement.
Author AndrewJ Posted August 21, 2005 Author Posted August 21, 2005 I have kept silent all weekend. No replies from this lass. Seems LB was right all along it was a charade.
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