G81 Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Found out he is dating someone new, I emailed him some bday pics I had of his son that I was going through and deleting, said happy bday to your little man, figured these best left with you, all my best. Here is his response, is it genuine? Does it mean anything? It was a messy breakup. Thank you, (my name). I appreciate having these. I’m sorry about how everything has happened - I know my behavior the last few months hasn’t reflected the person that I want to be. Thanks for the birthday wishes - I’ll let him know. I wish the best for you, too.
d0nnivain Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 It means he is not the complete douche bag / utter monster you thought he was. It does not mean he wants to reconcile. Be happy you got the apology. Make sure you get child support. Expect nothing else. 1
basil67 Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Nice if you to send those photos rather then just trash them. His message means exactly what it said. He's grateful for the photos. He also recognizes that his behaviour wasn't ok and is apologizing for what he put you through. 6
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 It means he's sorry about how he treated you and is grateful for the photos. 1
smackie9 Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Emotions can run high, making us regret out actions...and this is what he acknowledges and takes accountability for his s&*^^# behavior during that difficult breakup. He is giving you both closure. 2
guest569 Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Sorry about the messy breakup have you been in contact the last few months? Makes me wonder what he meant by his behaviour. But I wouldn't read too much into it. 'Thanks and sorry', that is all it means.
coolheadal Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Found out he is dating someone new, I emailed him some bday pics I had of his son that I was going through and deleting, said happy bday to your little man, figured these best left with you, all my best. Here is his response, is it genuine? Does it mean anything? It was a messy breakup. Thank you, (my name). I appreciate having these. I’m sorry about how everything has happened - I know my behavior the last few months hasn’t reflected the person that I want to be. Thanks for the birthday wishes - I’ll let him know. I wish the best for you, too. Exit speech is clear effective for you. Nutshell Ending.. See ya later or never! Move on my dear he's not worth your time and effort. What you had is gone for the new woman he decided to go after, leaving you in the dark pool of your tearful cries.. 1
guest569 Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 leaving you in the dark pool of your tearful cries.. That is a bit dramatic. I was imagining more, sailing own epic boat into the sunset. 3
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 It means he is not the complete douche bag / utter monster you thought he was. It does not mean he wants to reconcile. Be happy you got the apology. Make sure you get child support. Expect nothing else. Child support? The child is bf's, right? Not OP's? Anyway, every one is right. Don't read into it. He is regretful as he could have simply accepted your text w/o a response back or adding anything other than 'thanks' or something equally innocuous. 2
Miss Spider Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 Means he feels bad for how he handled things and he wants you to move on. 1
mortensorchid Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 He may has remorse over what happened in the break up situation. You sent the photos of the son because you were hoping he would open the door (let's not deny it), but don't think of it anything other than this. Move on from him, he is probably too ashamed of whatever it was that happened between you two to attempt anything other than this.
basil67 Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 You sent the photos of the son because you were hoping he would open the door (let's not deny it), Good people do nice things without ulterior motives. Sad for you if you only see nice behaviour as being fishing for something in return. 3
guest569 Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 Good people do nice things without ulterior motives. Sad for you if you only see nice behaviour as being fishing for something in return. I'm not sure, this crossed my mind also as OP is here analysing what his words meant, I had wondered whether OP was hoping for reconciliation..
Author G81 Posted November 12, 2017 Author Posted November 12, 2017 No, I sent the photos because it was his some bday and I took pics that night. He didn't take any and I am deleting all his info to gain my own closure and remembered he wanted them. It was just a gesture, because he had no pics of his some bday party. In hindsight, I don't think he deserves my kind gesture but nonetheless it's his son and the pics belong to him. I am struggling between missing, hating, loving and anger at him. So I'm just hoping with delete all that has to do with him so I'm no longer reminded. 1
coolheadal Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 No, I sent the photos because it was his some bday and I took pics that night. He didn't take any and I am deleting all his info to gain my own closure and remembered he wanted them. It was just a gesture, because he had no pics of his some bday party. In hindsight, I don't think he deserves my kind gesture but nonetheless it's his son and the pics belong to him. I am struggling between missing, hating, loving and anger at him. So I'm just hoping with delete all that has to do with him so I'm no longer reminded. Do NC = no contact.. Stop contacting him, just makes you feel worst than you are feeling. When he cheated on you that was it like a crushing blow to you self ego. He not worth your time anymore my dear!
coolheadal Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 That is a bit dramatic. I was imagining more, sailing own epic boat into the sunset. Don't tell me you never cried out tears from a break-up! Men do as well just like women do it more than we do. He cheated on her with another woman causes you to have a pool filled with tears from a long cry!
act00 Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 I wouldn't read any more into it than a "thank you and I'm sorry." I don't know what happened with the breakup, but he felt remorse for how things played out and he is sorry for that. You have enough kindness for him (even if you hate him) to send him the pictures before deleting in your efforts to move forward. I'm glad you did...no guilt associated with just deleting, which could leave you feeling bad about your action later. You were the bigger person, and it's more for the child, anyway. Time to move on.
d0nnivain Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 I am struggling between missing, hating, loving and anger at him. So I'm just hoping with delete all that has to do with him so I'm no longer reminded. I thought the child was yours too. Never mind about the CS then. The struggle is the typical grieving process. Your emotions are all over the place. Just keep going forward. Divesting yourself of the reminders will help.
Hopeful30 Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 Does it matter if it's genuine? You guys aren't together anymore. From my personal experience, sounds like a mature response. He's being civil and sincere, and now it's time for you to move on too.
kendahke Posted November 12, 2017 Posted November 12, 2017 Found out he is dating someone new, I emailed him some bday pics I had of his son that I was going through and deleting, said happy bday to your little man, figured these best left with you, all my best. Here is his response, is it genuine? Does it mean anything? It was a messy breakup. Thank you, (my name). I appreciate having these. I’m sorry about how everything has happened - I know my behavior the last few months hasn’t reflected the person that I want to be. Thanks for the birthday wishes - I’ll let him know. I wish the best for you, too. Sounds like he's aware of his part in the demise of your relationship and is acknowledging that to you. That does help. My ex (the one I've railed about) has done this and it helps me to feel as if I wasn't being gaslighted. It sounds genuine to me, as far as he's willing to go to reach out to you. Unless more comes from him in regards to his revelations about himself and his part in the break up, I'd just take this at face value and be satisfied that the bad blood between you two is being remedied.
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