Is this a date?

[bmne90]

Met a girl during an alumni event at school. She came back to talk about her job as an insurance agent and how she's adjusted to working full time after graduating. She also talked about this survey that helps students choose the right path for life after college.

 

After the event, I approached and told her I was interested in that survey, just to get a conversation going with her. She told me that we can arrange to talk about this some other time. Somehow, I could tell she knew what I was doing and was not actually interested in the survey, but to just get a convo going. As we continued talking (about just life in general), I noticed she was being very touchy with me, and eventually we exchanged numbers.

 

So I shoot her a text just saying how I liked her speech and all, and basically talked nothing about her job or anything work-related. A few days later, I said I'd like to talk to her some more, and she asked if I had time to grab coffee with her next week. Of course, I said "yes", and was under the impression that this is a date of some sort. But my mind started running and began wondering if maybe she sees me as a potential client of hers lol, and that maybe this was set up as some sort of insurance client meeting lmao?? What do you guys think? Is this a date or not?

[trustyourself]

Only one way to find out! Enjoy the coffee!

[GemmaUK]

It could be either.

 

I'm happy to ask a man on a date, always have been.

I would need to be veryinterested to do so though and the signals I get from him would already be very clear he is interested - as would mine to him.

 

I can be touchy with people - tactile is one of the things I am - but I can be that with someone I see as a brother (I don't see anything with him at all - he is 'safe') or a potential date.

The difference is I will flirt with a potential date.

 

Go along, see how the land lies, flirt and read the signals she gives you.

Be honest about things this time though - don't pretend you are interested in xyz instead of being interested in her.

[d0nnivain]

Take the pressure off. Call it a meeting. The lack of label "date" should help you calm down.

 

Go get that coffee. See where it goes.

 

My husband was in sales when we met. Based on the day of the week & the method he asked me to meet him, I wasn't sure it was a date or a sales pitch. It turned out to be a date.

[guest569]

Yes it is a bit tricky because of the professional setting in which you met, and a coffee can be a meeting or a date, so there isn't really a way of knowing. Hopefully during the coffee meeting/date/friendly catchup, it will become clearer! Good luck!