TPV6368 Posted November 10, 2017 Posted November 10, 2017 I am a young teen and i have started talking to this girl. I have tried to start talking to her before but it didnt work because i dont talk enough. This time i talked to her about it and i was saying that i would try my hardest to talk to her and make it work. We just had the conv today and i havent talked to her irl yet. But im still afraid to talk to her. So i need help before this monday because that going to be the next day i see her irl. So basically im asking, how can i talk to her and how can i stop being shy and just go talk to her?
smackie9 Posted November 10, 2017 Posted November 10, 2017 Meet as a group....you and her bring some buddies along and hang out together....this is how I did it when I was your age.
Author TPV6368 Posted November 11, 2017 Author Posted November 11, 2017 Im a young teen guy and I have just started talking to this girl. I have tried before but it didnt work bc I didnt talk enough. So we had a talk about it and now were talking, Monday will be the next time I see her and I'm still afraid to talk. Help
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Im a young teen guy and I have just started talking to this girl. I have tried before but it didnt work bc I didnt talk enough. So we had a talk about it and now were talking, Monday will be the next time I see her and I'm still afraid to talk. Help When you see her Monday, ask her what she did over the weekend. Don't ask her a yes or no question ("Did you have a good weekend?"), but instead say something like, "what exciting things did you do this weekend?"
Author TPV6368 Posted November 11, 2017 Author Posted November 11, 2017 When you see her Monday, ask her what she did over the weekend. Don't ask her a yes or no question ("Did you have a good weekend?"), but instead say something like, "what exciting things did you do this weekend?" Thank you that is very help. Ill ask her that and I'll try not to ask yes or no questions
d0nnivain Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Practice makes perfect. Asking Questions is a great idea! Try to remember one very important fact: everybody gets nervous! Most people are so busy being nervous themselves that they don't pick up on other's nervousness. Don't beat yourself up for any faux pas you think you make. I bet the young lady will be so flattered by your attention that she won't notice.
guest569 Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 What exactly makes you afraid to talk? I had the same difficulties as a teen and into young adulthood which I finally overcame. I might be able to provide more advice. Are you generally shy, or is it just with a girl you are interested in? Is it that you can't think of things to talk about? Anxious?
What-2-Do Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Best advice about conversation is to simply "get curious." Ask lots of questions. As another said ask her what she did over the weekend. Listen to her response and be curious about it. If she says she went out with friends ask her what they did and what was the best part? Get her to talk about herself as everyones favorite topic to talk about is themselves. Sit back and listen. Girls are better communicators than guys are so once she gets going it will be smooth sailing from there. Best of luck
Author TPV6368 Posted November 12, 2017 Author Posted November 12, 2017 One reason why I'm afraid is of talking in groups and when I'm going to be able to talk to her it's going to be when she is with other people bc it's going to be in school.(high school)
Author TPV6368 Posted November 12, 2017 Author Posted November 12, 2017 I'm a freshman in high school. I had another thread about me being nervous and they were very helpful. The next time ill see the girl will be Monday/tomorrow. They gave me good advice but i still fill nervous and i dont feel ready to talk to her.
carhill Posted November 13, 2017 Posted November 13, 2017 Tip: It's OK to not talk to her. Talk to someone else, another young lady. By 'talk' I mean normal human conversation, not flirting. Keep at it until you feel ready and then, yup it is a risk, always will be until you're dead, give it shot and use all that practice to let the words flow.
LivingWaterPlease Posted November 13, 2017 Posted November 13, 2017 And, also, being a little nervous can help put an extra zing in your convo! Don't be afraid of nervous! We all get nervous about different things from time-to-time!
coolheadal Posted November 13, 2017 Posted November 13, 2017 Your scared you would blow it with her. Just take a deep breath (3x times) say the word relax and then say I can do this! Remember you got all of us here on LS on your shoulder just not alone anymore. Go talk to her about what you watch on CATV or SATV or OTA your favorite TV shows.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 13, 2017 Posted November 13, 2017 You can do it. Guess what? She's probably as nervous as you. Focus on making HER feel comfortable and it will boost your confidence in talking to her. 1
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