PrincessMe Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 ok so here's the stroy ( and yes i'm ready for some harsh replies) I am married and i have been having an A with a MM........................ This is the first time i ever did something like this i can't believe i did......... the problem is i think( through alot of self searching) that i only did it for the thrill.............. but he wants to leave his wife and expects me to do the same thing....... I am happy with my marriage and there are numerous lil ppl on both sides..................................................How can I just end the whole thing without hurting him?........................ I'm ready for the bashing i'm about to get ..................but i really do need the advice
Opium Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 Just tell him, "it was a nice time but a mistake I made in my life. You need to fix your marriage as I do too." I'm not going to bash you tell you what a horrible person you are because I will tell you here in LS you'll get. The thrill is over and you want it over, just do it. What I don't get is, maybe this will make you think, you are trying to be careful to NOT hurt a man you don't love but yet you hurt the one person you do? It shouldnt' be to hard to tell him "see ya".
Marie1973 Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 HI No bashing here. I guess all u could do is sit him down & have a long talk with him & tell him exactly how u feel. I don't know what else to say. If u were happy in your marriage, why did u have an affair?
Author PrincessMe Posted August 18, 2005 Author Posted August 18, 2005 It is possible to be happy and bored at the same time? I do love my husband .............. I don't know why I did it ............. i guess it was because ....... he made me feel wanted and appriciated , sexy beautiful.......... i could go on ................it was like my hubby used to be when we first were together...........................( i also want to add which may seem odd, that it made my marrige better too, i confessed to my hubby what had happened and we started working on us again)
Author PrincessMe Posted August 18, 2005 Author Posted August 18, 2005 ok i may have left out something........................... i have told the mm that i am done and yet he continues to persist........... and no i really don't want to hurt him we had been friends for years .................but i don't want him in love with me either.................................ohhh what a mess i have made
newbby Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 he will probably persist for as long as you are still talking to him.
Author PrincessMe Posted August 18, 2005 Author Posted August 18, 2005 i think you're right newbby...........thank you ................ i had my cake and ate it too .......... now i've got the tummy ache
Owl Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Not intended as a bash, so please don't take it as one. Tell your husband. Be honest with him about what's been going on, and see what you can do to repair your marriage that's been damaged by the affair. Ask him to help you to end the affair. He can do this by insisting that you no longer contact the OM. He can hold you accountable, so that if you get weak and start to slip up you've got someone to help you keep from doing so. Hope that helps.
Merin Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 1) Ask if he want's fries with that? after everything he says 2) Ask what do you mean by that? after everything he says 3) Discuss in detail your ugly case of diarreah and then ask if he will get you fries JK JK JK Honestly, you need to tell this Guy that you've told your Husband what happened and that you LOVE your husband and are not leaving him EVER. Be honest in telling him that while you don't want to hurt him, that you REFUSE to hurt your husband any longer by continuing this relationship in any way, size, shape or form.... AND then ask if he wants fries with that Good Luck
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