hptalbot Posted November 8, 2017 Posted November 8, 2017 I was a late bloomer in regards to romance, I did not really date till my mid twenties and I started off with dating sites like OKCupid. I am tired of online dating, I've met some good people, even had a few relationships bloom out of it, but for the last year it has been a complete bust. I've had maybe two dates in the last 365 days and the fatigue is really starting to set in. I am tired of the constant ghosting. If I message a woman and she does not respond, great moving on. Hell, even when the messaging has gone on a long time and slowly putters out, or I say something stupid and scare her away, I can handle those. They are learning experiences. Its when we exchange two or three messages and she disappears, long before anyone says anything deal breaking, thats just so frustrating. Especially most recently: she messages me first seems super into things then just drops off the planet. That's been the entirely of my dating life for the last year. I've gotten to the point where I never message anyone anymore. I let them message me, but now even that can't be relied on. Has online dating changed? Have I changed? Either way I am tired of it. The problem is OLD composes the entity of my dating experience. I don't go to bars, I don't know any singles events. Where do people normally go to meet people? What do people normally do? I have recently gone back to school and live in a collage town, so I am sure there are events around, but I don't know where to start. Any help?
PhilHarper Posted November 9, 2017 Posted November 9, 2017 I think it's good to have other ways of meeting women and people in general. Something that allows you to take a break from online or apps. Do you live in a big or small city? Some suggestions. -Facebook to connect with friends and find out about local events you might be interested in. Personally I love Facebook's event listing setup. -Meetup.com groups that you can join -Young professional groups -Improv comedy classes -Student organisations -Toastmasters for public speaking, if that's something you want to work on. -Talk to friends of friends about setting you up with someone -Get invited to family or friend weddings -Look for flyers for cool activities posted around your school -Read up on "day game" and cold approaches -Join a recreational sports team or running group to make friends -look for volunteer opportunities The downside is none of these with the exception of cold approaches work instantly in terms of getting a date. These are things you'll have to participate in fairly regularly. But on the bright side you should be choosing things you'll enjoy or benefit from doing anyway, and if you happen to meet someone, they'll hopefully already be familiar enough not to instantly ghost you. They may be more likely to give you a chance. 1
bluefeather Posted November 9, 2017 Posted November 9, 2017 I don't go to bars, I don't know any singles events. Where do people normally go to meet people? What do people normally do? I have recently gone back to school and live in a collage town, so I am sure there are events around, but I don't know where to start. Any help? Dude, anywhere. I hit on a girl in line at a Subway a while back. The sandwhich place, not an underground train station... but that might work too. If you're going to college, I'm jealous, because that's a great place to meet people. I'd go back for a few classes if I had the time and money just for the social aspect. To your OLD frustration, eh that's how it goes sometimes. I just started trying tinder for the first time ever, so we'll see how that goes. But I don't have many expectations for it. I kind of see it more like a game to play on my phone. I can usually find attractive women to talk to whenever I go anywhere. Go to a mall or a store that you like. They're out there O_o
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2017 Posted November 9, 2017 The problem is OLD composes the entity of my dating experience. I don't go to bars, I don't know any singles events. Where do people normally go to meet people? What do people normally do? I have recently gone back to school and live in a collage town, so I am sure there are events around, but I don't know where to start. Any help? The internet is actual a good place to start. Search the following: singles events near me & speed dating. Then attend something. Also search through MeetUp groups to find something that interests you. If you live in a college town & have resumed taking classes, look around for school activities. They are probably posted on a bulletin board in or near the student center. There will also be ads in the student newspaper They probably have a returning adult support group / social group. Attend it. Look around in class. If you see somebody attractive, ask that person to study with you as a pretext to get to know them.
coolheadal Posted November 9, 2017 Posted November 9, 2017 I was a late bloomer in regards to romance, I did not really date till my mid twenties and I started off with dating sites like OKCupid. I am tired of online dating, I've met some good people, even had a few relationships bloom out of it, but for the last year it has been a complete bust. I've had maybe two dates in the last 365 days and the fatigue is really starting to set in. I am tired of the constant ghosting. If I message a woman and she does not respond, great moving on. Hell, even when the messaging has gone on a long time and slowly putters out, or I say something stupid and scare her away, I can handle those. They are learning experiences. Its when we exchange two or three messages and she disappears, long before anyone says anything deal breaking, thats just so frustrating. Especially most recently: she messages me first seems super into things then just drops off the planet. That's been the entirely of my dating life for the last year. I've gotten to the point where I never message anyone anymore. I let them message me, but now even that can't be relied on. Has online dating changed? Have I changed? Either way I am tired of it. The problem is OLD composes the entity of my dating experience. I don't go to bars, I don't know any singles events. Where do people normally go to meet people? What do people normally do? I have recently gone back to school and live in a collage town, so I am sure there are events around, but I don't know where to start. Any help? OKC has taken one good feature away that was you knew who had visited you and like you. Then you could send a message. Without this feature OKC is dead to me. I had decided to try to see who was interested at me at my job got two women. One kinda smiles when I call her name out. I actually yell it until she smiles and waves. Ran into her when I was leaving gave her bunch but on her frist. I have another one moving in. Just keep cool things work out but for me asking someone who you work with each and every day works out better. OKC was great and they made the woman stronger and very picky now.
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2017 Posted November 9, 2017 Everyone has dry spells.....it will pick up as the holiday parties start. As to where events are? Start networking with fellow students. It's through simple conversation is how it happens. 1
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