Kookiee Posted November 8, 2017 Posted November 8, 2017 Hi there, My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 and a half years, he’s 24 and I’m 23. Everything has been going well, no arguments, fights etc. All of a sudden out of the blue he asks for a break - his reasoning was that the thought of the future of marriage/kids to him is a tough commitment that he can’t handle thinking about that. He also mentioned that he was just stressed and overwhelmed of the responsibilities of a relationships, and needs time to recollect his mind. The idea about a constant continuous commitment plays a huge factor as well. He just feels that he gets this feeling every so often, and needs a break to really get himself back on track. Two years ago we also encountered this as well, but after a month he came back saying he missed me, etc. But this time he also recently got a full time job few months ago, not sure if this plays a factor or not. I just don’t know what to think about it, after some time again if we do get back together what if he does the same thing, is it worth it? because I really really do love him - I can’t see myself being with anyone else. He told me he still loves me, but then the idea of him wanting to experience with other girls now still lingers in my mind.
d0nnivain Posted November 8, 2017 Posted November 8, 2017 You two have been together since you were teens. 5.5 years is a very long time. His cold feet could be just that but more likely he wants out, doesn't know how to tell you & doesn't want to be the source of your pain. Breaks are really break-ups with training wheels. He wants to see if he can make it without you. When he learns he can, he will make it official. Even if he comes back, this is the 2nd time he's done this. He has proven himself unreliable. Thank about that before you simply take him back out of a misguided sense of relief. 1
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